Gift to kallah lag beomer?

amother

Jasmine

Tue, May 14 2024, 3:21 pm

A box of matches
Ok, that silver thing that you use to light candles

Never heard of this minhag but why not start it?

amother

Buttercup

Tue, May 14 2024, 3:28 pm

Diamond crusted scissors so she can cut her hair

amother

Tealblue

Tue, May 14 2024, 3:30 pm

I do wish it would be acceptable for OP to gift her son's kallah whatever she likes without the (very real) fear of it becoming a "standard" that now everyone, rich or poor, is expected to match (or risk hurting the kallah or insulting the mechutonim). I wish I could read a thread like this without sighing at the mental image of Hachnosas Kallah organizations fundraising "so no kallah will forgo her Lag B'omer gift."

amother

Khaki

Tue, May 14 2024, 3:36 pm

My sister got a luggage set and my SIL got a designer purse

amother

Plum

Tue, May 14 2024, 3:55 pm

I don't even understand the question.
Lag b'omer marks when the students stopped dying and now it's a time for giving gifts? In general or just for new kallahs?
Is this really a thing? In some places/ circles? Or just some random poster decided it's a nice thing to do?
I'm so lost.

agreer

Tue, May 14 2024, 4:01 pm

It's not a thing.
Don't make it one.

It's a special day but it's not a Yom tov.

amother

Silver

Tue, May 14 2024, 4:02 pm

amother Plum wrote:

I’m feeling a little punchy today.

Maybe along those lines, you can gift the Kallah (and chasson) burial plots. They are not cheap.

amother

Lily

Tue, May 14 2024, 4:05 pm

amother Silver wrote:

I’m feeling a little punchy today.

Maybe along those lines, you can gift the Kallah (and chasson) burial plots. They are not cheap.

Yeah that’s expensive!!!!! 😂😂

amother

Smokey

Tue, May 14 2024, 4:08 pm

Why dont we phrase this as "I want to give her a gift and it coincides with Lag bomer so whats something nice to give that connects to the day" instead of "heres a new standard to set in the gift giving craze for kallas"

I would answer that giving her lichter around now is very appropriate for this chag.

If you already gave that, how about a lichter tray or a silver lighter thing

Chayalle

Tue, May 14 2024, 4:09 pm

A grill and grill accessories for their new home BEH.

This is a thing? LOL.

shachachti ↓

Tue, May 14 2024, 4:23 pm

If its a short engagement and you're looking for occasions to send the gifts then now is the time to send the crossbody etc.

If you have too many occasions and just want to acknowledge her then you can send a wedding countdown type of thing.

Zeleze

Tue, May 14 2024, 9:25 pm

I heard thet here in EY some give a leather Tehilim with name

amother

Mistyrose

Wed, May 15 2024, 4:45 am

Lag BaOmer gifts are NOT NECESSARY and I've never heard of anything doing them!!!! Please, have some rachmanus on the rest of us. I still have three boys to marry off and the standard gifts have been enough of a headache and expense.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, May 15 2024, 6:19 am

I'm skipping
I saw an ad and thought I was in the minority
good to know I'm not

amother

Aqua

Wed, May 15 2024, 6:59 am

too late, its already a thing.

think I gave the crossbody bag. dont' remember.

amother

Seablue

Wed, May 15 2024, 8:51 am

Last year I learned from a chassidish friend of mine in Lakewood that in their circles the kallah gets a pocketbook for a gift on lag baomer. It was a new concept to me, a regular Lakewood wife but apparently she said it's a big yt for them🤷. She's not heavy chassidish either, you wouldn't know it when meeting her.

amother

Honeydew

Wed, May 15 2024, 9:10 am

amother Aqua wrote:

too late, its already a thing.

think I gave the crossbody bag. dont' remember.

kallahs get crossbody bags? from their mother in laws? I have seriously never heard of this!