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Smush/groups in high school. Does the pressure stop?
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amother
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Post Wed, May 22 2024, 1:19 am
I have two high school dd’s. This whole friend group business is insane and beyond bizarre but obviously I got used to it. Will this crazy pressure to always have your group never let up? I’m curious for girls who went through the system like this, was it hard and stressful? Does it go on in seminary?

I’m from OOT and such things never existed.
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amother
Tulip


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 1:36 am
Smush?
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mandr




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 1:58 am
amother Tulip wrote:
Smush?

Wondering the same?
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amother
Crystal


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 2:09 am
What are you talking about?!
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amother
Sand


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 4:02 am
amother Tulip wrote:
Smush?

Looks like an auto-correct situation LOL
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amother
Eggshell


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 5:58 am
Is this in MML?
They have a group known as “the smush”. Very intimidating for everyone else who is not part of it.
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cupcake123




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 6:56 am
Whats a smush group? Actually really curious now. Live in Lakewood but kids aren't in HS yet
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amother
DarkYellow


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 6:57 am
amother Eggshell wrote:
Is this in MML?
They have a group known as “the smush”. Very intimidating for everyone else who is not part of it.


What's mml?
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UQT




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 6:59 am
amother Sand wrote:
Looks like an auto-correct situation LOL

Lol it’s not an autocorrect situation. If you have girls in Hs you definitely heard the word smush used. Three girls in I’m still not exactly sure what they are referring to. In my head I think it’s what we used to refer as JAPPY but with a Yeshivish touch. I could be very wrong but based on the conversations that’s how I chalked it up.
Supposedly shmush cannot be explained to ancient mothers in words.
As for the pressure - bh my girls never expressed a desire to be part. I could imagine for those on the fringe of such groups it can be very hard. Trying to keep up…
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UQT




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:02 am
amother DarkYellow wrote:
What's mml?

A high school here. My daughters are in a different HS, interesting that more than one place refers to the group as the smush. I chalked it up to JAP bec usually when I’ll ask my kids if they know someone’s daughter (from a wealthy family) they’ll say oh Ma she’s a smush.
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amother
Lawngreen


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:07 am
I’m rolling. Dd graduated hs last year and I never heard that word! Mist be new
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amother
Eggshell


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:19 am
UQT wrote:
A high school here. My daughters are in a different HS, interesting that more than one place refers to the group as the smush. I chalked it up to JAP bec usually when I’ll ask my kids if they know someone’s daughter (from a wealthy family) they’ll say oh Ma she’s a smush.


My dd will see someone from her school and if I ask who it is, she’ll say- oh, she’s part of the smush.
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amother
Eggshell


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:20 am
amother Lawngreen wrote:
I’m rolling. Dd graduated hs last year and I never heard that word! Mist be new


Maybe your dd was a smush. They don’t talk about themselves that way. It’s how others refer to them.
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amother
Lemon


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:21 am
amother Lawngreen wrote:
I’m rolling. Dd graduated hs last year and I never heard that word! Mist be new


2 dds graduated and never heard the term.

Sem is just as bad. Maybe even feels worse because 24/7.

No issue for dds once home. By then they have too many friends bh from the different "eras" (neighbors, hs, sem, work). Also, more confidence.
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small bean




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:24 am
I never heard of shush used like that.

The groups are friend groups. There are friend groups, cliques and the shmush. The shmush is girls who don't have their own group, they are part of the shmush. And then there are girls who don't have any friends.

I think it's a symptom of large grades.

BH my girls have good friends so not really a thing unless I say nice girl, does she have friends...
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amother
Seagreen


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:35 am
What does smush mean, a clique?
Is it used to refer to a clique you're being excluded from, in a derogatory way?
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amother
Crystal


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 7:52 am
Did everyone here just start speaking another language?
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amother
Eggshell


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 8:05 am
amother Seagreen wrote:
What does smush mean, a clique?
Is it used to refer to a clique you're being excluded from, in a derogatory way?


Probably a good explanation.
But it’s more like- the elite.
Confident, smart, stylish, charismatic…
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amother
Eggshell


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 8:06 am
amother Crystal wrote:
Did everyone here just start speaking another language?


You learn it slowly when you listen to your hs daughter speak.
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amother
Tanzanite


 

Post Wed, May 22 2024, 8:12 am
Read through all the answers... And I'm still confused.
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