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-> Our Challenging Children (gifted, ADHD, sensitive, defiant)
amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 3:58 pm
I know that sounds extreme
but she is so mean and disrespectful
every word that comes out of her mouth is full of mockery
she is mean to her siblings
she is a bully to me
I try to step away when I feel that I'm dysregulated but she follows me and insists that I talk to her, insists that I say certain things, make promises etc. etc.
She doesn't respect that I need my space so that I can calm down
She will go on for hours and hours
I'm so lost and sad and angry.
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Almond
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 4:00 pm
Meds , meds & more meds
And the right meds .
Keep on the meds journey till you get it right & don’t give up .
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 4:01 pm
Omg could have written this word for word.
My daughter is 12.
Consequences dont work.
Shel apologise all the time but then shel start asking me why she gets a punushment and have a fit about what it is.
Im really not coping.
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Mamushka
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 4:59 pm
Therapy! Therapy! Therapy!
Therapy for you so you can survive.
Therapy to get guidance in parenting a difficult child.
Therapy for your child
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 5:14 pm
Does she feel loved?
I agree with therapy and also sod haadam
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mha3484
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 5:17 pm
How is her life outside of the home? Does he have friends? Does she do well in school? Is she a happy person? Behavior is communication and she's clearly trying to express something to you the question is what.
The book the explosive child is very helpful for kids like this. Www.livesinthebalance.org is a good resource if you dont want to buy the book the parent section is really helpful.
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 5:40 pm
If you're interested in biomedical/alternative treatments to help regulate her nervous system, I can share some ideas.
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Iris
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 6:31 pm
amother Almond wrote: | Meds , meds & more meds
And the right meds .
Keep on the meds journey till you get it right & don’t give up . |
Or set bounded, love, love love.
Help her develop talent and hobbies. Give of yourseld emotional physically monetary and time.
Take personally time, exercise free brain and let put pent up energy
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#BestBubby
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 6:38 pm
The consequences of modern parenting.
Pre schoolers must know very, very, very well
That they must be very respectful to parents.
And can't be mean to siblings.
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 6:43 pm
One idea that might help a little:
Dr Becky said to imagine a glass wall in between the two of you.
So if she is dysregulated, the wall is in between so you don’t have to receive all her emotions.
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Calendula
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 7:47 pm
Dd was that way. I regret that I let her bully especially one ds. Otherwise I only suggest to not reply and let her talk. Therapy is good if she agrees separate her from siblings and give the siblings support
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amother
Oxfordblue
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 7:57 pm
[quote="amother Broom"]Does she feel loved?
I agree with therapy and also sod haadam[/quote
Yes sod haadom!!
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 8:32 pm
I have a kid like that. Not sure why it took us so long to start therapy for my child and me. My kids therapist encouraged us to view our child as having special needs and that’s been very helpful for me. Also therapist strongly encouraged meds which has been less helpful bec my child has reacted to every one that we’ve tried. I guess it’s a work in progress. Having therapy for both me and child has been life changing because I have support and guidance. It’s not all on me anymore
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 8:52 pm
amother Oak wrote: | If you're interested in biomedical/alternative treatments to help regulate her nervous system, I can share some ideas. |
yes please
thank you all
I feel suicidal from hours of my days and nights spent this way
I cannot be a normal parent because of her
my home has become so dysfunctional
I end up losing myself every time
I am ashamed
I have no motivation to go on
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amother
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Mon, Jun 10 2024, 8:58 pm
amother OP wrote: | yes please
thank you all
I feel suicidal from hours of my days and nights spent this way
I cannot be a normal parent because of her
my home has become so dysfunctional
I end up losing myself every time
I am ashamed
I have no motivation to go on | This is a list of different potential root causes and/or treatments you can do. Let me know if anything piques your interest and I can say more.
Homeopathy
Supplements
Herbs
Craniosacral therapy
Airway orthodontics (is she a mouth breather??)
Treating brain inflammation
Diet
Gut health
Thyroid
Adrenal fatigue?
Magnesium and mineral balancing
Lyme and coinfections
Mold
Would you like to read some books?
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amother
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Tue, Jun 11 2024, 3:52 am
amother OP wrote: | yes please
thank you all
I feel suicidal from hours of my days and nights spent this way
I cannot be a normal parent because of her
my home has become so dysfunctional
I end up losing myself every time
I am ashamed
I have no motivation to go on |
But you've got other kids. Who are suffering enough from their sister, they don't need to lose their mother because of their sister as well.
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