Need advice. 1 y2m cries all the time

Mamushka

Tue, Aug 17 2010, 2:31 am

My DS is 1 year and 2 months old.
He cries soooo much. I'm going crazy.
He doesn't eat well, then he doesn't sleep well, then he wakes up misrable.
I feel that I'm constantly holding him. Playing with him. Fighting with him to change diapers, fighting with him so he will sit in his chair, stroller,....
I hate fighting with him.
Please help me find a way to make things smoother at home, so I can enjoy him more and can pay attention to my other kids too.
Thanks

c.c.cookie

Tue, Aug 17 2010, 2:58 am

He sounds like my son! It's important to differentiate bet. crying because he's "spoiled" and knows it will get him what he wants, and crying because he is unhappy, uncomfortable etc. If you have to fight with him to dress him, put him in the stroller etc. it sounds to me like for whatever reason he's experiencing discomfort with these things. How is he on the floor? Have you ever considered that he may have sensory issues, which could make all these things uncomfortable? How is he with bathing? Brushing? Nail cutting? Are there any clothing that bother him? Do tags bother him? Is he bothered by noise, bright lights etc.?

amother

Tue, Aug 17 2010, 6:41 pm

c.c.cookie wrote:

CC COOKIE,

Do you have a psych background? Those things you mentioned as indicative of sensory issues- I think my son (age 2) and maybe even I have some of that. Could you elaborate on what it means to have sensory issues?

My son absolutely hates water being poured over his head (namely in his eyes) and I have always been very sensitive to water in my eyes in the shower, swimming, etc. He will scream and cry and it is miserable. He doesnt like us brushing his teeth though I think thats just more stubborness as he will tolerate it for a few seconds and then grab it to do himself. He hates when we cut his nails for the most part. Some clothes (button down shirts and jeans) he will protest putting on, saying "too big" (which he means "too small") but is fine when theyre on. I never noticed lights or noise bothering him at all though. When he was a baby he always hated to be put down and wanted full attention at all times. He is extremely verbal bli ayin hara and most people who know him say he is very advanced, bli ayin hara in lots of areas.

I myself hate the water in the eyes, and recently hate lots of noise, people talking loudly, etc (though I love loud music) I cant stand things like washing dishes with no gloves on or touching foreign things. I am not one to initiate relations or be very touchy feely.

Im curious about what "sensory issues" means. Interestingly I can already tell my 6 month old daughter does not have that issue when bathing (my son freaked out as early as I can remember, as a newborn).

Sooo sorry to hijack this thread!

amother

Tue, Aug 17 2010, 6:48 pm

OP,

I dont have a medical background and dont want you to get anxious or worried but I would take him in to a doctor just check to see if there is anything chas v'shalom causing your lil one any pain or discomfort underlying his behavior. G-d forbid but sometimes extreme fussiness might serve as a signal that theres something wrong. If you are unsure your doctor would pick up on something very particular, see a specialist. MOre likely, G-d willing, it is just his temperment and it's then all about coping! Good luck and I hope your lil one turns his frown upside down soon! Very Happy