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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 11:17 am
Is it allowed to be a guest or to have guests during the year if aveilus on my mother?
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Chayalle
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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 11:40 am
We definitely hosted guests during my year of Aveilus, since on Shabbos there is no public aveilus....DH was allowed to host, so were my kids, and I was there by default.
I was also told that if DH wants to be a guest at someone else, I can go along with him.
For all of these questions, ask your LOR.
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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 11:44 am
So sorry for you loss. It's not so b/w. Don't be embarrassed to ask a rav, repeatedly, as needed.
Essentially, no. But there are so many factors:
- Do you need help? Or do your guests need a place?
- Is this for kiruv purposes?
- Would your husband be very uncomfortable going somewhere without you?
- Is this family or regular guests?
HaMakom yenacheim eschem b'soch she'ar aveilei Tziyon vYrushalayim.
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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 11:51 am
Please ask your LOR because individual circumstances will affect the answer you get.
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vicki
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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 12:26 pm
Definitely ask your LOR, but I have heard that you should limit your circle to two families: yours and one other, whether hosting or being entertained. That keeps it from being a party-like atmosphere.
Of course, if it is not something you are comfortable with, don't feel obligated.
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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 12:53 pm
Some do, some don't. As Chayalle said, there's no public availus on shabbos. How that's understood differs from place to place, so ask your rabbi.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 15 2016, 12:59 pm
definitely ask your rav. I was told not to go out(but I can host) while my sister was told she can go if there arent other guests there.
this is all a zchus for your mother. and good luck,its tough. but manageable
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lech lecha08
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Fri, Sep 16 2016, 4:02 am
Definitely ask your rav. When DH was in aveilut, he got a psak that the Purim seuda could be with guests. His brother who asked someone else was told no.
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grace413
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Fri, Sep 16 2016, 4:18 am
Just as an example of how personal circumstances are important here, I was single and living alone when my father died.
Nobody expected me eat alone on Shabbat for an entire year.
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essie14
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Fri, Sep 16 2016, 4:27 am
Literally every single person I know observes aveilut differently. You need to ask your LOR all your questions. There are no clear cut answers. It depends on many many factors and circumstances.
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