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amother
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 7:32 pm
Where did you buy your dd diamond necklace and earrings for her wedding in Brooklyn or online? And only because someone told me that you could also wear costume jewelry-is this true? How many Kallahs wear real diamond necklaces and earrings and how many don't?
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pesek zman
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 8:13 pm
Why does it have to be diamonds? Especially for a young bride, diamonds are too mature and unnecessary. Why not lovely pearl jewelry? (it's what I wore and I was not what you'd consider a 'young' bride )
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tweety1
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 8:53 pm
pesek zman wrote: | Why does it have to be diamonds? Especially for a young bride, diamonds are too mature and unnecessary. Why not lovely pearl jewelry? (it's what I wore and I was not what you'd consider a 'young' bride ) |
Why do you say so as a general rule? I would never give up on diamond earrings. Not for myself and not for my kallahs. Necklace I can hear.
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pesek zman
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 9:14 pm
tweety1 wrote: | Why do you say so as a general rule? I would never give up on diamond earrings. Not for myself and not for my kallahs. Necklace I can hear. |
What do you mean by 'give up'? If someone offers as a gift, of course, accept. But my understanding is that OP is the mother of the bride and was told to buy diamond jewler my for her daughter. I'm not sure that buying a daughter diamond jewelry (in addition to the expense of a wedding) is necessary. But everyone does what they do
ETA I never heard that mothers buy jewelry for their daughters for the wedding. This is not done in my circles. My parents are exceedingly generous and made a beautiful wedding for me, but they didn't buy me any wedding jewelry. Nor did I expect them to. I wore a pearl necklace I received as a bas mitzvah gift and pear earring from my husband. Pearl bracelet was a birthday present from years earlier.
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forever21
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 9:23 pm
When u get engaged you usually get a diamond bracelet from the chosson. Plus you get a diamond ring . Why the need for diamond earrings too ?? Isn’t a ring and a bracelet enough diamonds in one shot , why the need for earrings too ??
Let her chosson buy her diamond earrings for a special occasion like a birthday or anniversary gift after they are married
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amother
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 9:25 pm
I would never buy diamond jewelry online, only from a reputable store.
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amother
Seashell
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 9:28 pm
Bingo!!! ( Yes yes)
Amsel
54 & 12
The mother of the bride does not have to buy The Bride any jewelry unless the groom is an orphan.
The typical bride gets as follows earrings, a pearl necklace , a bracelet, a diamond ring, a watch and maybe a necklace for weekday that's it.
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forever21
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 10:19 pm
I just realized I got this also when I got engaged a million years ago . Now I’m wondering how I’m going to afford all this when my son gets engaged !!
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simba
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 10:21 pm
In my circles we give real diamonds. Each family according to their means. I would buy at a local jeweler and not online.
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gande
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 10:27 pm
You get much better value on diamonds at the local stores. Feldmans on 16th avenue is a good store.
If you don't mind custom jewelry, there are beautiful stuff that looks real to be bought in Boro Park at Tiptop -13 & 49 or at corner store 13 & 50th.
I wore cheap earrings till after the chuppa when I got my real ones.
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amother
Natural
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Wed, Aug 22 2018, 10:45 pm
amother wrote: | Bingo!!! ( Yes yes)
Amsel
54 & 12
The mother of the bride does not have to buy The Bride any jewelry unless the groom is an orphan.
The typical bride gets as follows earrings, a pearl necklace , a bracelet, a diamond ring, a watch and maybe a necklace for weekday that's it. |
A gold band and a diamond pin are also given. Weekday jewelry is given as a mikvah present sometimes.
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tweety1
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 1:20 am
pesek zman wrote: | What do you mean by 'give up'? If someone offers as a gift, of course, accept. But my understanding is that OP is the mother of the bride and was told to buy diamond jewler my for her daughter. I'm not sure that buying a daughter diamond jewelry (in addition to the expense of a wedding) is necessary. But everyone does what they do
ETA I never heard that mothers buy jewelry for their daughters for the wedding. This is not done in my circles. My parents are exceedingly generous and made a beautiful wedding for me, but they didn't buy me any wedding jewelry. Nor did I expect them to. I wore a pearl necklace I received as a bas mitzvah gift and pear earring from my husband. Pearl bracelet was a birthday present from years earlier. |
I'm sorry I didn't come across clear. "For my kallahs" I meant my dil. My son's kallah. I still stick to what I wrote though. Necklace is extra earrings isn't. For myself I meant when I got married.
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WhatFor
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 1:58 am
amother wrote: | A gold band and a diamond pin are also given. Weekday jewelry is given as a mikvah present sometimes. |
You forgot that also for the bedekin gift you must give a headpiece made entirely of pink and yellow diamonds. Then for sixth month anniversary a small estate. Some give without a vineyard or ranch but I personally find it insulting to a DIL. First year anniversary should be a yacht. If you cannot afford one, some give a high-end sailboat but some say that's an ayin hara for divorce so ideally do the yacht. Tzar gadol banim, what can you do?
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amother
Violet
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 2:13 am
What is a normal, good price for decent quality earrings?
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Ruchel
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 6:44 am
pesek zman wrote: | Why does it have to be diamonds? Especially for a young bride, diamonds are too mature and unnecessary. Why not lovely pearl jewelry? (it's what I wore and I was not what you'd consider a 'young' bride ) |
I'd never had done diamond as a girl.
Granted some don't want pealrs because "it is tears". I'm NOT that superstitious.
Also you can buy ANY item. I have never seen something set apart as kallah except ring
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amother
Aubergine
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 12:37 pm
My MIL bought my jewelry in Molly's (a bracelet at the engagement and necklace in the yichud room).
They got my ring from a diamond dealer they are friends with.
I did not get any other jewelry and did not expect anything else.
My parents did not buy me jewelry for my wedding.
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ludicrous
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 3:59 pm
feldman's in boro park is very reliable and honest
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amother
White
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Thu, Aug 23 2018, 8:05 pm
WhatFor wrote: | You forgot that also for the bedekin gift you must give a headpiece made entirely of pink and yellow diamonds. Then for sixth month anniversary a small estate. Some give without a vineyard or ranch but I personally find it insulting to a DIL. First year anniversary should be a yacht. If you cannot afford one, some give a high-end sailboat but some say that's an ayin hara for divorce so ideally do the yacht. Tzar gadol banim, what can you do? |
LOVE!!!!!
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SuperWify
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Fri, Aug 24 2018, 12:01 am
amother wrote: | A gold band and a diamond pin are also given. Weekday jewelry is given as a mikvah present sometimes. |
Mikvah present???
How does that work? Every month?
(Yippee! Another reason to get my period!)
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