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Perrys
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:28 pm
[quote="amother [ OP ]"]Trying to understand why...is it because the kallah should be standing out as much as possible? if so then why isnt it considered such a faux passe if its the bridal side is in white?[/quote
Sefardim do it!!
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amother
Seafoam
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:35 pm
amother [ Blush ] wrote: | I guess this depends on the community. In our community it's a non issue.
If you look at the non jewish websites, most flower girls gowns are white. |
In the Syrian community it’s very common that EVERYONE wears white. There are those that do color as well
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amother
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:38 pm
We discuss this every week. In my circles people wear white and the kallahs are fine with it. It's up to the kallah to decide if it's appropriate. If it's not your wedding it's not your business.
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amother
Peach
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:41 pm
I understand that in Europe the mothers wear white to child's wedding.
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amother
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:42 pm
amother [ Orchid ] wrote: | We discuss this every week. In my circles people wear white and the kallahs are fine with it. It's up to the kallah to decide if it's appropriate. If it's not your wedding it's not your business. |
ummm but it IS my business. I dont want to commit a fashion gaffe. and nobody asked the kalla whether she minds or not... chassidish circles if it makes a difference
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Rutabaga
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:44 pm
Can someone please explain why anyone other than the kallah and maybe the flower girls would wear white? It's supposed to symbolize virginity, so having married women wear it seems odd.
Also, let's be honest, white is not the most flattering color for many complexions and body types and it's very impractical for eating or if you have young children with you at the wedding.
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Cookin4days
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:48 pm
In my community (Syrian) it is SO common to have your bridesmaids in white, unless specified by the bride - some brides care and have you wear a different color and some ask you to wear white
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tweety1
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:48 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | ummm but it IS my business. I dont want to commit a fashion gaffe. and nobody asked the kalla whether she minds or not... chassidish circles if it makes a difference |
Funny how I was thinking the same. I dunno if there's something wrong I just can't stand it. I didn't get stark white for my kids when sibling got married not too long ago. Ivory is ok.
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ra_mom
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:50 pm
If the wedding party is wearing white, you can be sure the bride asked for that color scheme.
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amother
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:52 pm
Don’t wear white unless the Kallah asks you to and specifically wants a snowball wedding-which is beautiful IF it is the Kallah a choice. Don’t put her on the spot and ask if it is ok either it is not fair to wear white or to put he on the spot where she is not getting what she wants or is forced to be a b***ch (which she isn’t if she advocates for herself, but it’s hard and unfair).
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amother
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:53 pm
ra_mom wrote: | If the wedding party is wearing white, you can be sure the bride asked for that color scheme. |
except that she didnt ask lol. which is why I think it odd that my sis in laws just decided and ran with it
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amother
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 5:58 pm
amother [ Khaki ] wrote: | Don’t wear white unless the Kallah asks you to and specifically wants a snowball wedding-which is beautiful IF it is the Kallah a choice. Don’t put her on the spot and ask if it is ok either it is not fair to wear white or to put he on the spot where she is not getting what she wants or is forced to be a b***ch (which she isn’t if she advocates for herself, but it’s hard and unfair). |
I'm ok being the odd one out and sticking to my color...doubt I can do anything about the others though...wish I can show this thread somehow to the ones that didnt settle on their gowns yet...but then I'll be the b***ch
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Simple1
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:10 pm
Is the Kallah and her mother OK with it? If so, then I wouldn't worry about it. Not something I would do if I were making a wedding. But to each their own.
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piegirl
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:17 pm
I think a half white gown is the best compromise for you. For sure they told the kallah what color they want to get. Did you?
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amother
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:19 pm
Rutabaga wrote: | Can someone please explain why anyone other than the kallah and maybe the flower girls would wear white? It's supposed to symbolize virginity, so having married women wear it seems odd.
Also, let's be honest, white is not the most flattering color for many complexions and body types and it's very impractical for eating or if you have young children with you at the wedding. |
This is not true in the Jewish tradition.
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amother
Jade
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:21 pm
It's a wedding. It's a few hours. It's NOTHING compared to a marriage. I really do not understand the whole thing about the minute details of the wedding, it's exhausting. (And yes, I felt this way when I was 25 as well.)
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amother
Honeydew
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:22 pm
Some kallahs don't want to stand out.
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amother
Slategray
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:49 pm
We just had a thread on this.
I have the unpopular opinion : my husband’s side all wore off-white to my wedding and didn’t really like it.
(My gown wasn’t stark white if that matters)
I don’t think they discussed it with anyone on my side, each side just said they’ll do their own colors.
So as a bride I wasn’t consulted nor did I ask them to. And if they’d have asked I’d probably my have shrugged and said do what you want.
It didn’t stress me out or anything but if you’re asking my opinion: no.
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ra_mom
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Mon, Apr 26 2021, 6:51 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | except that she didnt ask lol. which is why I think it odd that my sis in laws just decided and ran with it |
Only the groom's side was wearing white? And they didn't ask the bride if they could wear that color?
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