Chanukat habayit | Imamother

amother

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 10:26 am

What constitutes a chanukat habayit- are there any 'rules' about this custom?

essie14

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 11:16 am

Maybe this differs in different circles. We are MO/DL. There are no rules. We made a Friday night oneg for our neighbors and friends. We planned to do something else for out of town friends and family but then Covid started and now it feels silly, 2 years later.

Elfrida

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 11:25 am

My sister gave birth two weeks after moving. They held the brit at home, and combined it with a chanukat habayit. People pretty much do what they want.

amother

Brass

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 11:26 am

I actually just bought a house recently. I kind of feel like a chanukas Habayis is showing off. I’m just plain frum/yeshivish. Do most people make one?

Elfrida

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 11:35 am

amother [ Brass ] wrote:

I actually just bought a house recently. I kind of feel like a chanukas Habayis is showing off. I’m just plain frum/yeshivish. Do most people make one?

I think it's a matter if choice, and a convenient way to meet the neighbours. My sister was making a brit anyway, so they combined the two. If she hadn't been making a brit I don't know if she would have gone to the effort just for a chanukat habayit.

amother

Oatmeal

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 11:53 am

amother [ Brass ] wrote:

I actually just bought a house recently. I kind of feel like a chanukas Habayis is showing off. I’m just plain frum/yeshivish. Do most people make one?

It’s meant to be a way of thanking Hashem for your new home. You can keep it small if you don’t want to show off.

jellybelly94

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 12:30 pm

We were nervous about that and were actually told by our rav that it's a beautiful thing and is not showing off or a cause to worry about ayin Horan all the more so it's a chance to thank Hashem and people to give you brachos to use your house for the good.

jellybelly94

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 12:31 pm

And we r regular yeshivish. Also no rules about what you can or can't make for it....

jellybelly94

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 12:32 pm

Actually I tjink we were told to have someone say a dvar Torah there

amother

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 1:55 pm

does it need to be with a minyan of men?

amother

Sand

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 2:01 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

does it need to be with a minyan of men?

Op it depends on your minhag
For certain Sephardim it’s a big deal
There is a special tikun to say with a minyan

jellybelly94

Mon, Oct 11 2021, 2:18 pm

For litvish I don't think it's a necessity to have minyan