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amother
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 Thu, Jul 20 2023, 4:46 pm
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I am looking for chizzuk because I have reached rock bottom. My 3 year old and 4.5 year old boys do not. stop. fighting. From the second they get home from camp my house is a chaotic zoo. They are so physical to the point that both of them come to camp every day with scratches, bruises, and bite marks. I do whatever I can to separate them but I am one person and also have a newborn and it's literally just impossible. My home is not a peaceful place to be and I am embarrassed to have people over because of the chaos and I am so sad that I resort to threatening and yelling to get them to stop but that doesn't even help - the only thing that stops it is physically picking them up and closing them in their rooms to stop the attacks. Please give me chizzuk because I am just so so sad that this is my life every day. Is this normal for boys?
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amother
Magnolia
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Thu, Jul 20 2023, 4:54 pm
My mother (who had mostly girls) was once talking to my aunt (who had mostly boys).
My mother was telling her sister that her girls liked to play house and grocery store.
My aunt told her that her boys liked to play "who can push each other down the stairs".
So fighting is definitely within the realm of normal.
However, while wrestling is acceptable fighting, the scratching and biting is NOT. Can you try enforcing just that part? "It's okay if you guys want to wrestle, but there can be NO biting or scratching!"
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amother
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Thu, Jul 20 2023, 7:59 pm
| amother Magnolia wrote: | My mother (who had mostly girls) was once talking to my aunt (who had mostly boys).
My mother was telling her sister that her girls liked to play house and grocery store.
My aunt told her that her boys liked to play "who can push each other down the stairs".
So fighting is definitely within the realm of normal.
However, while wrestling is acceptable fighting, the scratching and biting is NOT. Can you try enforcing just that part? "It's okay if you guys want to wrestle, but there can be NO biting or scratching!" |
If only telling them "No Biting" would do the trick. I am like background noise...They are just impulsive and lash out the second they get upset.
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amother
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Thu, Jul 20 2023, 8:17 pm
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as a mother of 3 boys, lifesaver was the book 'siblings without rivalry' by adelle faber. its was easy to read with quick hands on solutions for me how to react to their fighting and prevent many. good luck!
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