Chanukah class reunion

amother

Orange

Mon, Dec 04 2023, 7:16 pm

Each girl can bring a gift having to do with another girls name. Everyone has to guess who its connected to.

Psa- regarding HS reunions. We had our 20 yr
Reunion recently. It was very upsetting and totally not neccesary. Pp commenting on who got skinnier/heavier, who is the type to have only girls, who made a bar mitzvah recently. All this when some girls didnt get married early on and some girls not married. I felt the whole thing was very insensitive. Whoever one wants to keep in touch woth they will anyway. No need to make pp feel uncomfortable and not good bc they gained weight or dnt have alot of kids. No one has any idea what another person is going thru especially when you havent spoken to them in 20 yrs!!

amother

Cognac

Mon, Dec 04 2023, 7:46 pm

amother Orange wrote:

Psa- regarding HS reunions. We had our 20 yr
Reunion recently. It was very upsetting and totally not neccesary. Pp commenting on who got skinnier/heavier, who is the type to have only girls, who made a bar mitzvah recently. All this when some girls didnt get married early on and some girls not married. I felt the whole thing was very insensitive. Whoever one wants to keep in touch woth they will anyway. No need to make pp feel uncomfortable and not good bc they gained weight or dnt have alot of kids. No one has any idea what another person is going thru especially when you havent spoken to them in 20 yrs!!

I was wondering this… my grade never had a reunion and people keep mentioning maybe we should make one

But what about the single girls (or shall we say ladies by now, we’re in our 30s)
And what about the divorced ones
And the one who never had kids
Etc etc etc
How will all the conversations make them feel. Even if we don’t discuss who got skinnier/fatter (I don’t think my grade would do that out loud… maybe think it or afterwards between individuals lol) and who’s the type to have only girls… conversations always veer to the topics most at hand, let’s say what schools your kids go to, or even what your husband does for a living etc. I was trying to think of ANY topic that could be safe to talk about that won’t be hurtful to some… but then again, the world keeps turning even if you’re single/divorced/childless and if they know their vulnerability and what hurts them and maybe they would choose not to come to avoid the pain. But that would be such a shame.

amother

Mon, Dec 04 2023, 8:21 pm

amother Orange wrote:

Each girl can bring a gift having to do with another girls name. Everyone has to guess who its connected to.

Thanks for your idea! It's theoretically a good idea, only the reunion is tomorrow, so I can't really do such a type of game with such short notice...

any other ideas?

tichellady

Mon, Dec 04 2023, 8:46 pm

amother Orange wrote:

Sounds like the problem is the people not the idea of a reunion. Why should anyone feel like they aren’t worth talking to because they gained weight or they don’t have kids?

doodlesmom

Mon, Dec 04 2023, 8:49 pm

Never have I ever….everyone brings 15 candies any type.
First person says something they’ve never done in their life, whoever did do it gives her a candy. See who stays with the most.
It brings up lots of fun discussions etc. you obviously want to say something that’s unusual. Ie. I never gave birth vaginally, or I never was on an airplane etc…