Morah / Rebbe Gifts

amother

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 12:25 pm

How much are you spending apiece? Whether it's a present, gift card or cash.

I included free as an option if you are just writing a card.

amother

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 12:26 pm

Also, I'm not including this in the poll, but how much are you spending on therapist gifts? Same or more than morahs?

amother

Lightblue

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 12:57 pm

I live very in a community where tipping/gifts isn't the norm.

Generally the class buys something for the teachers once or twice a year.

I like to give something small for all the yomim tovim and special days, to show extra appreciation because I know how challenging my kids can be!!

I spend up to $15 per teacher and there's 18 teachers 😺😺

amother

Lime

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:00 pm

Rebbe is getting $36

Therapists (OT) are getting $20

For one preschool kid the school collected and asked $40 per kid (it's for two teachers and two assistants)

For a diff kid the school collected just for english teachers, they asked $25 but I gave 15 or 20, don't remember

amother

Dahlia

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:06 pm

Rebbe $100 Yup, it is nekudas and reading year.

Playgroup Morah $30 (I pay cash monthly)
Assistant $20

Bus driver $30
Bus assistant am/pm $20 each

I have 2 kids bh. $220 total.

amother

Mistyrose

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:07 pm

I only have 1 DC at the moment so I can give this much, im sure once I have more I wont be able to.
I gave $50 to both playgroup teachers and a box of chocolates. For OT and SLP I gave $30 with a nice card. I give cash. I dont believe in wasting money on gifts that will be thrown out or given away. (If I am anyway spending the money I'd rather just give cash and let them buy what they want). It's a very very big stretch for us, but I am very thankful for the care she has received

amother

Nemesia

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:08 pm

amother Dahlia wrote:

Rebbe $100 Yup, it is nekudas and reading year.

Playgroup Morah $30 (I pay cash monthly)
Assistant $20

Bus driver $30
Bus assistant am/pm $20 each

I have 2 kids bh. $220 total.

Oy that this is the norm today.

amother

Lime

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:09 pm

amother Nemesia wrote:

Oy that this is the norm today.

Who said this is the norm just because amother dahlia does it?

amother

cornflower

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:16 pm

In Brooklyn norm for rebbe is 200. Morah 54-100. Bus Morah 40-50. Bus driver 40-50. Therapist 50.

amother

Lime

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:19 pm

amother cornflower wrote:

In Brooklyn norm for rebbe is 200. Morah 54-100. Bus Morah 40-50. Bus driver 40-50. Therapist 50.

I'm in Brooklyn, I have a few kids in school and never heard of this. And none of my family members or friends do this either.
And I also work in one of the above mentioned jobs and very rarely get the amount you listed
So I'm not sure where you got these numbers from...

amother

Papaya

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:23 pm

Lakewood
I gave $20 to each morah and a nice note
5 Morahs total

amother

Wallflower

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:38 pm

amother cornflower wrote:

In Brooklyn norm for rebbe is 200. Morah 54-100. Bus Morah 40-50. Bus driver 40-50. Therapist 50.

Omg is this true? I gifted morahs 10-15$ and therapists same 10-15$ Is that an embarrassment uh oh

amother

Antiquewhite

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:38 pm

I gave $20 playgroup morah. And collections to wtvr the schools asked for teachers. Rebbe $100

amother

Pearl

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:43 pm

Just saying I worked as a therapist (OT) for a few years in a large mainstream yeshiva in NY until last year (switched jobs) and most kids gave nothing. From 20-30 students per year: I got a gift (chocolate/platter/cookbook) from 1-3 kids and gelt from 1-2. And the ones that gave money was $5-10. Same for my coworkers. I was happy to get but didn't expect anything. That's life. Money is tight for everyone (hence why I switched jobs).

amother

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:44 pm

amother cornflower wrote:

In Brooklyn norm for rebbe is 200. Morah 54-100. Bus Morah 40-50. Bus driver 40-50. Therapist 50.

Wow! You should be bentched that you can always afford such generous gifts.

I hope the morahs appreciate my $25

amother

Peachpuff

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:45 pm

Teachers $30, Rebbe $180, Rebbe assistant, $100, bus driver $50, bus teacher gift of dairy chocolate truffles.

amother

Peachpuff

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:47 pm

amother Wallflower wrote:

Omg is this true? I gifted morahs 10-15$ and therapists same 10-15$ Is that an embarrassment uh oh

$50+ for a more is more substantial. The norm is more $25-$30. $200 is also not the norm for a rebbe.
But this pressure to give what others give must stop! We should all give what we can afford.

amother

Lime

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:49 pm

amother Wallflower wrote:

Omg is this true? I gifted morahs 10-15$ and therapists same 10-15$ Is that an embarrassment uh oh

No it's totally not true. My kids are in Brooklyn schools and I work in a brooklyn school and no one I know does this.
If someone can afford it then kol hakavod (and lucky teachers!) But it's definitely not the norm

amother

Lime

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 1:50 pm

amother Peachpuff wrote:

$50+ for a more is more substantial. The norm is more $25-$30. $200 is also not the norm for a rebbe.
But this pressure to give what others give must stop! We should all give what we can afford.

I thought it's about appreciation, not about being "substantial"? If it's truly about appreciation (and let's be brutally honest, we all know it isn't) then any amount can show appreciation, whether "substantial" or not

amother

Coral

Thu, Dec 07 2023, 3:34 pm

So greatful that I dont live in a place where this is the norm.
No gifts. And cards? Ive never heard of that.