Who do you make Sandek?

amother

Topaz

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:21 pm

amother Slategray wrote:

???? More than once in a lifetime???

A grandfather/ great grandfather can’t be sandek more then once? Is this brought down somewhere?

amother

Stone

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:22 pm

amother OP wrote:

I do but he won’t be attending

Brothers would be tricky between mine and DHs and I feel the ones not asked would be insulted

U start with the oldest.

rmbg

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:27 pm

amother Topaz wrote:

A grandfather/ great grandfather can’t be sandek more then once? Is this brought down somewhere?

No. More than once for the same family. Not for two siblings

amother

Slategray

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 10:28 pm

rmbg wrote:

No. More than once for the same family. Not for two siblings

What would be the reason ?

amother

Glitter

Mon, Mar 04 2024, 11:05 pm

It doesn’t have to be your Rav. We asked a family members Rav after both grandfathers and our Rav had already been sandek for us and if that didn’t work out we were going to have someone ask a local Rosh Yeshiva who knows who we are but we aren’t close with.
Dh is also an option, was very common during Covid.