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honey36
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 Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:03 pm
| TwinsMommy wrote: | I was a playgroup assistant and my husband came to visit me and meet the kids on a day off because he's great with kids. One of the moms started a rumor that he's a child molester. Few believe it, but enough do that he'll never again visit me while I'm subbing assisting. Or babysitting.
Why is it an assumption that if it's a boy or man, abuse or molestation is involved? Ladies. We all MARRIED men and are raising boys. Gender assumptions are stupid.
I gladly would have hired a male babysitter when my kids were young enough but everyone available was female. |
Gender assumptions are not stupid. Males are much more likely to commit s-xual abuse than females. This is a statistical fact, not an opinion.
Sure, we all marry men, but when dealing with a vulnerable population (children) in a vulnerable situation (home alone with just the babysitter) we need to be extra careful.
My pediatrician always advocates for never letting boys babysit. I guess he dealt with too many bad stories R"L.
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Rappel
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Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:09 pm
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There are probably more boys whom would be good at babysitting than there are families whom will hire them
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amother
Cappuccino
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Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:13 pm
| amother Mustard wrote: | | Yichud is complicated for girl babysitters too. Wish there were boys available to babysit my sons 9 and 5. A teenage girl can't according to yichud |
It's less complicated the other way around. Yichud starts for girls at 3 but for boys at 9, so there's a longer window for it to be acceptable to have a girl babysitting boys. Also if there is a sibling who is above a certain age (opinions vary, but 5 or 6 is pretty standard) then it's allowed. Ask your rav, you may be able to rely on that for babysitting for your boys. But yes, in your case, having a boy babysitter would be simpler.
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Ema of 5
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Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:40 pm
| TwinsMommy wrote: | I was a playgroup assistant and my husband came to visit me and meet the kids on a day off because he's great with kids. One of the moms started a rumor that he's a child molester. Few believe it, but enough do that he'll never again visit me while I'm subbing assisting. Or babysitting.
Why is it an assumption that if it's a boy or man, abuse or molestation is involved? Ladies. We all MARRIED men and are raising boys. Gender assumptions are stupid.
I gladly would have hired a male babysitter when my kids were young enough but everyone available was female. |
Downright crazy!!
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amother
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Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:43 pm
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My friend's husband is a rebbi and pretty often she has dorm bochurim babysit, especially when the kids are sleeping. Obviously only boys she knows well.
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amother
Dill
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Thu, Mar 07 2024, 2:07 pm
Yes and no.
My boys are capable to babysit, but in yeshiva or school and not so available. All of then babysat at least once.
One watched a bunch of kids when the mother had a concussion, one watched cousins, and one the oldest was a 10 year old boy and the mother thought he'd be more comfortable with a male babysitter. None did babies in diapers, etc. More preschool-elementary school age.
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theoneandonly
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Thu, Mar 07 2024, 2:49 pm
| amother Seagreen wrote: | What age?
And is this location based?
how does he get to and from the family he is babysitting at? |
He is 13, has done mothers helper for toddler age (playing with the kids while Mom is home) for a few years already. He recently started babysitting at nights for sleeping kids when the parents aren't home. We live in a walkable area so he walks to/from where he is going.
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amother
Salmon
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Sun, May 26 2024, 1:21 am
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I need a boy babysitter due to yichud in flatbush any leads?
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amother
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Sun, May 26 2024, 1:25 am
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Yes my son 11 babysits all the time. He's very responsible bh.
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Iymnok
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Sun, May 26 2024, 1:31 am
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I taught my brother to babysit. There were a couple all boys families that would be more comfortable with him. He survived. The mothers were super thankful.
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amother
NeonPink
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Sun, May 26 2024, 1:45 am
| amother Red wrote: | | Yes my son 11 babysits all the time. He's very responsible bh. |
11?! I wouldn’t let an 11 year old girl babysit either.
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Ruchel
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Sun, May 26 2024, 12:54 pm
My husband did
Some prefer a boy to babysit boys
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tichellady
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Sun, May 26 2024, 12:59 pm
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My husband babysat. I hire male babysitters for my son, he has such a fun time with them.
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