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gryp

Mon, Aug 07 2006, 10:36 pm

I'll start with one:
We should never make nasty insulting remarks to our kids.

amother

Mon, Aug 07 2006, 11:45 pm

Even if we . think it's not so bad or . think it we will toughen them up for the real world b/c in reality that will not work.

I will include teasing into this too for the same reasons some parents do it as the above.

Also if someone compliments your child infront of you don't pooh pooh it away it's ok to say Thank-You and not you should see what she is like at home etc.

Or you have a beautiful child she looks just like you to which mother answers oh there is always plastic surgery in front of the child.

This will help to build low self esteem in children for sure !

shopaholic

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 9:31 am

Never forget to send them to bed with a kiss & I love you. I make sure to do that every night.

southernbubby

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 9:38 am

Don't compare them to their siblings, cousins, or other people's kids. Don't let them ride in the car without a seatbelt.

mumsy23

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 9:44 am

When reprimanding, never address the child, rather the action. I.e. "What you did was bad" and not "You were bad!"

mom3boys

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 9:48 am

Never make empty threats or promises. Always be ready to follow through.

Secbeb

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 10:15 am

Don't show favortism to one child over another

su7kids

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 11:18 am

not "what you should NEVER do" but rather what you should ALWAYS do:

no matter how irritating it can get when they're young: ALWAYS LISTEN.

That way when they get older, they'll still come and talk to you!!!

Motek

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 12:38 pm

anybody wondering why amother posted anonymously?

What parents should never do?

Abandon their children to be raised by others.

shayna82

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 12:41 pm

um maybe she was treated that way when she was younger and dosnt want anyone to know... does it matter?

Always show your kids that you love them, no matter what they do.

make them feel special just for being them

Motek

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 1:20 pm

shayna82 wrote:

um maybe she was treated that way when she was younger and dosnt want anyone to know... does it matter?

yes, because it annoys many people and in Yael's Rules/Guidelines we are asked to explain if it's not obvious

amother

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 4:46 pm

Quote:

um maybe she was treated that way when she was younger and dosnt want anyone to know.

exactly Shayna82

gryp

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 9:26 pm

Quote:

Also if someone compliments your child infront of you don't pooh pooh it away it's ok to say Thank-You and not you should see what she is like at home etc.

I think thats important.
a few weeks ago I was shopping in Target and none of my kids were sitting nicely in the shopping cart. as we were heading to the checkout, the kids finally settled down and were quiet for a second. we passed a lady who was having trouble with her kids and she asked them, "Why cant you be more like them????" and pointed to us! I almost responded "you should have seen them a second ago!" but was too stunned to say anything that my noisy kids of all people would be looked at as kids who are behaving. Smile

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shayna82

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 10:29 pm

Motek wrote:

shayna82 wrote:

um maybe she was treated that way when she was younger and dosnt want anyone to know... does it matter?

yes, because it annoys many people and in Yael's Rules/Guidelines we are asked to explain if it's not obvious

it sounds like it annoys only you?!

Crayon210

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 10:38 pm

(Nope, not only Motek.)

shayna82

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 10:44 pm

o ok, lol...

Music

cip

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 10:50 pm

never disagree with dh in front of kids. parents who have a united front and respect each other have children with healthier self esteem Very Happy

red sea

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 11:08 pm

I love this thread GR, ty.

Motek

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 11:25 pm

shayna82 wrote:

Motek wrote:

shayna82 wrote:

um maybe she was treated that way when she was younger and dosnt want anyone to know... does it matter?

yes, because it annoys many people and in Yael's Rules/Guidelines we are asked to explain if it's not obvious

it sounds like it annoys only you?!

Shayna, did you miss Defy's rant thread about this?

Did you miss the offshoot of her rant thread in which numerous posters pledged to ignore amothers' posts?

sorry GR about mixing this in to your thread Confused

Tefila

Tue, Aug 08 2006, 11:25 pm

Quote:

That way when they get older, they'll still come and talk to you!!!

100% even if it seems like nourishkiet I so agree. Smile

Gr do u think the way people responded it was coming from books I thought it could be coming from personal situations too. Scratching Head

And motek I understand amother bothers us..... sorry amother but sometimes you just do Twisted Evil

But this time I do think she was ok to post annon my 2 cents anyways Confused

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