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amother




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Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 9:06 am
Can you have a single woman as kvater?
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Chayalle




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 9:07 am
I know someone who had a single woman be kvatter together with a married couple.

If you do this, please make sure that whoever is kvatter is comfortable with the kibbud.
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Rubber Ducky




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 9:09 am
DS#1 and wonderful DDIL gave single DS#2 kvatter at their son's bris. I think they figured it was a segulah to get married.
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Rutabaga




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 9:21 am
Traditionally, the kibbud of kvatter is given to a woman and a man, usually a couple. This is for practical reasons. The woman takes the baby from the mother and brings him to a man to carry into the shul. There's no reason why a single woman can't carry the baby and pass it on. I've also seen a kvatter chain which included single siblings of the new parents.
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blessedflower




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 9:35 am
Yes. The woman can give the baby to a son, brother or einikel
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amother




Seagreen


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 9:40 am
When we asked who can be kvatter, rabbi said anyone you want. It doesn't have to be a couple trying to have children -- it doesn't have to be a couple of child bearing age -- it doesn't have to be a couple at all. Anyone at all you want to honor can do it.
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shabbatiscoming




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 12:55 pm
There are NO halachot attached to being kvatter.
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Tzivia18




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 1:02 pm
I've seen two single siblings be kvatter.
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chatz




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 1:13 pm
Ive learnt that the kvatter should be a man and woman pair- but that can be a parent/child or two siblings. My (single) brother-in-law and mother-in-law were kvatter for one of my sons.
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amother




Aubergine


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 1:32 pm
Yes, a single woman can be kvatter, by herself, no man needed.

My grandmother was kvatter for her baby brother (when she was about 9 yo!) and her older sister was kvatter for her other brother.

My brother came to our bris without his wife. He was kvatter, alone.
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amother




Honeydew


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 2:12 pm
I was kvatter at my brothers bris when I was single.
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tweety1




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 3:39 pm
amother [ Honeydew ] wrote:
I was kvatter at my brothers bris when I was single.

And who took over the baby by the men's side?
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amother




Honeydew


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 6:03 pm
My grandfather took over the baby.
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Flip Flops




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 6:13 pm
Tzivia18 wrote:
I've seen two single siblings be kvatter.

I've seen the same. A brother and sister in shidduchim.
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amother




Tangerine


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 8:03 pm
We were told by a very respected rav that being kvater is a zechus for a yeshua. By my sons bris we had an older single girl pass my baby to her married brother.
The older single got engaged within the year.
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essie14




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 10:25 pm
I was kvatter when I was single for my brothers baby. I took the baby from SIL and passed to my brother.

ETA: I didn't get married for another 10 years


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daagahminayin




 
 
 


Post  Mon, Sep 09 2019, 10:31 pm
I was a kvatter at my cousin’s bris when I was single... and within the year I was married and pregnant BH!
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