Has anyone in my situation gotten a heter for 9 b’av?

amother

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:41 pm

Should I even bother asking if it’s going to be an emphatic NO?
I’m breastfeeding, and I have a low milk supply. Fasting will affect my supply.
On top of that, it’s over 100 degrees where I live.
Anyone in this situation ever got a heter go fast until chatzos?

qwerty4

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:43 pm

I know numerous people get a heter when breastfeeding, even if milk supply is fine.

amother

Red

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:43 pm

Yes. You really should call and ask. I know if two rabbanim that said call at chatzot and let's reevaluate.

amother

Jetblack

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:46 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Not me, my sister does not fast if she is pregnant or nursing. As per her husband’s rabbi.
( side note, even when my milk supply was low , I did fast, I did not lose milk, however, my urine output was very very low)

Mama Bear

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:46 pm

Yes you should ask. I didnt have to fast when I was nursing.

Amelia Bedelia

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:50 pm

Chassidish rabbanim are very meikil when it comes to women fasting on Tisha B'Av.

banana123

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 3:53 pm

Definitely ask. You may not need to fast until chatzot even.

notshanarishona

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 4:36 pm

I got a heter when I was exclusively breast feeding.
I even got a heter for Yom Kippur when exclusively breastfeeding a NICU baby.
Never hurts to ask.

amother

Tangerine

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 4:38 pm

I've never fasted on tishu ba'av if I was pregnant or breastfeeding. You should definitely ask.

amother

Sienna

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 4:41 pm

Just make sure you're asking the right type of Rav. I asked when I was nursing and pregnant, and Tisha b'av was a nidche, I DID NOT get a heter and I was so mad. (This was a very well known mainstream rabbi)

ImmaBubby

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 4:44 pm

Definitely ask your Rov.
Everything is different this year, from guidelines to making Pesach to heterim to listen to music during the three weeks. I think the poskim realize how fragile most of us have become, physically and emotionally.
Go for it.

amother

Dodgerblue

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 4:51 pm

amother [ Sienna ] wrote:

Just make sure you're asking the right type of Rav. I asked when I was nursing and pregnant, and Tisha b'av was a nidche, I DID NOT get a better and I was so mad.

Wow. I cannot imagine not getting a heter in your situation.

amother

Linen

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 5:10 pm

In Bobov, nursing/pregnant women do not have to fast yom kippur and tisha bav.

amother

Sienna

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 5:31 pm

amother [ Dodgerblue ] wrote:

Wow. I cannot imagine not getting a heter in your situation.

It was really hard. I am generally a good faster and ended up being ok but I was upset. Especially since it was a nidche. This year I am 13 weeks pregnant and I am going to ask my current rabbi.

amother

Babyblue

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 5:32 pm

amother [ Linen ] wrote:

In Bobov, nursing/pregnant women do not have to fast yom kippur and tisha bav.

Your right about tisha bav,
but Yom Kippur, Bobov is rather less lenient than most.

amother

Tangerine

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 5:40 pm

amother [ Linen ] wrote:

In Bobov, nursing/pregnant women do not have to fast yom kippur and tisha bav.

In Bobov, females don't fast on tishu ba'av. Girls and non pregnant or not nursing women included.
All women in Bobov fast yom kipper, it's a doreisa.

amother

Beige

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 5:47 pm

amother [ Tangerine ] wrote:

In Bobov, females don't fast on tishu ba'av. Girls and non pregnant or not nursing women included.
All women in Bobov fast yom kipper, it's a doreisa.

What?
I think I'm converting to Bobov. Tongue Out

But seriously I'm jealous

amother

Vermilion

Mon, Jul 27 2020, 5:53 pm

I've been getting so stressed out about fasting, my baby is almost four months and completely refusing to take a bottle. My husband just told me the Rav said if we can't get her to take a bottle in the next few days I can do shiurim. I was SHOCKED. And feel so much calmer BH