I’m too overprotective of my son😩

FranticFrummie

Sun, Mar 21 2021, 6:05 am

There are two issues here. First, you can tell your son "Hold my hand, or you will have to ride in the stroller." The second he wiggles free, scoop him up and strap him in tight. Do this Every. Single. Time. He needs to know that you mean business, and holding your hand is not negotiable.

Second, is more important. You use words of fear, terror, panic. There are a lot of "what if's". None of this is necessary to be a good mom. Sit down and think realistically. WHAT exactly are you afraid of? Do you have a way of controlling that situation, or preventing it? Then DO THAT, and let go of your fear.

Parenting always comes with some degree of worry, but living in a constant state of tension is not healthy for either of you. You have to look at the risk/benefit analysis. You let him run around on the playground, and that's good. "What if he gets hit by lightning?" Well, what are the odds of that happening? Not very high, that's for sure. So you take a chance, and let him play.

He wants to run around in traffic. "What if he gets hit by a car?" That is highly probable, so you choose not to allow that to happen, no matter how much he begs to run wild in the street. That's good parenting.

Every time you have a fear, ask yourself if this is something that could really happen in a million years, or just something that triggers you. Be logical, do research if you have to, and then make INFORMED decisions from a place of intelligence, not emotion. You will be a much happier mama, and be more confident in your decisions. You won't be second guessing yourself all the time, and your child will grow up to trust you because you will be calm and firm with your rules.

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Saddlebrown

Sun, Mar 21 2021, 9:19 am

Hashem_n_Farfel wrote:

Thanks guys! I’m gonna go with the harness backpack in the future. Any local stores sell them here in Boro park? Please let me know.

How do I *not* be so overprotective? I know it’s my first and my mum was the same way with me too (also the oldest child here) but even if we’re at a friends house I keep a really really sharp eye on my son 🙈🙈🙈

It’s not normal Sad

That is normal. Why do you think it’s abnormal?