Male boss offers me a ride home

amother

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:03 pm

There I said it, is it appropriate ? I declined by the way.

hodeez

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:04 pm

If you think it isn't then it isn't.

amother

Quince

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:06 pm

If we live near the same area, I would feel awkward but grateful. Hate taking public transportation

amother

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:07 pm

A mother Quince you would accept the ride ?

amother

Firethorn

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:08 pm

Why would that be a problem?

Unless of course your radar is sensing something off... but generally, what's the big deal?

amother

Beige

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:09 pm

My boss gave me a ride a few times...I sat in the back... no problem

amother

Whitewash

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:11 pm

I had more than one boss drive me home or even pick me up and take me to work. Usually when the weather was bad and I couldn’t get a ride . But sometimes they offered if they happened to have been going on the direction of my neighborhood. I sat quietly in the back and said thank you when he dropped me off.
No big deal.

amother

Quince

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:16 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

A mother Quince you would accept the ride ?

If there was any attraction, obviously not. I probably wouldn’t even work there then. I can’t work if I’m uncomfortable. I’m basing this off my boss. An old man who keeps lots of good boundaries with all employees like he should. But he wouldn’t offer a ride. And we don’t live near each other. So yea, nevermind me than

amother

Quince

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:17 pm

Yes I would also sit in the back

Dandelion21

Thu, Oct 21 2021, 11:20 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

There I said it, is it appropriate ? I declined by the way.

When it was icy and freezing outside I accepted a ride home together with another workmate. If it is nice weather I would decline.

amother

Hyacinth

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 12:04 am

I have gotten rides before with my boss, personally I don’t think it’s a big deal. If you feel uncomfortable then it’s fine to decline, but I don’t think the offer is a problem

amother

Hunter

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 2:40 am

amother [ Quince ] wrote:

If we live near the same area, I would feel awkward but grateful. Hate taking public transportation

Same.

I try to sit in the back but he has 3 kids under 4 so the back is filled with car seats and I feel bad asking him to move them.

singleagain

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 5:51 am

My boss once asked me for a ride. I think to go pick up his car from the shop , but in the end the timing worked out that he got a ride from another employee.

Really don't think it's a big deal unless it becomes an all the time thing ... And that goes for a female boss also

moonstone

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 6:37 am

What is the big deal? He sounds like he's a nice guy trying to help you out. Not every male-female interaction is "naughty" and to be avoided at all costs! 🙄

amother

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 6:42 am

I feel kind of attracted to him on an emotional level. We get along very well. How do I keep boundaries. I must interact with him a few times a day.

amother

Melon

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 8:16 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I feel kind of attracted to him on an emotional level. We get along very well. How do I keep boundaries. I must interact with him a few times a day.

I totally get you Im in same situation!!

amother

Chambray

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 8:20 am

Trust your gut op and based on your feelings of connection just don't do it.
In your specific situation best not to do it.
Think you know that.
But maybe want to find a loophole to ok it....
please don't
for your own good and keep your job.

LovesHashem

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 8:28 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I feel kind of attracted to him on an emotional level. We get along very well. How do I keep boundaries. I must interact with him a few times a day.

If I was a attracted I would not take a ride alone together.

amother

Catmint

Fri, Oct 22 2021, 8:28 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I feel kind of attracted to him on an emotional level. We get along very well. How do I keep boundaries. I must interact with him a few times a day.

Well, this changes things. If you need boundaries, you set them. But otherwise, why not?