How can I teach myself to be more patient with my kids?

amother

Tue, Feb 08 2022, 10:20 am

jewishmom6 wrote:

First of all, you are in a super tough situation. I wouldn't manage being home all day with my kids.

re the bolded. She is trying to connect to you.

Also, I want to suggest that when you need your kids to do something (pajamas, baths, dressed)
if they are playing I would tell them how much more time they have until bath time (or can do timer)...they need advance notice.
then when it's time I would say ok everyone come and I would physically take them and undress them or help them get undressed.

I am not sure if its me or not but I feel like my kids are lazier and less independent with getting dressed and undressed. for me thats the only way it works on getting the night moving when I help them along....

thats my personal take instead of resorting to yelling.

it works so much better that yelling out instructions. they just wont listen like that.

Thanks.
I know my daughter is trying to connect to me when she sticks to me. I feel bad because I realize that, and I'm also stressed because it's always when I'm in a rush, running to finish gathering materials for classes and the students are starting to come, and she wants to jump down the stairs holding hands... Lately I just give up and take her with me to the classes, the truth is the students are fine with it.

I actually do give them advance warnings with timers, and I do physically help them with whatever possible. There are some things they insist on doing themselves, but get very distracted and I have to keep reminding them over and over, like to finish saying shema, to choose what they want to wear, choose which toothbrush they want, etc.