Surfview cottage Ami serial.. Leah is my friend IRL

amother

Mayflower

Sun, Jul 24 2022, 12:59 pm

I agree with ehat everyone is saying about it being written in a very obvious way. I don’t know… to me it cheapens the writing. I wish it was a bit more nuanced. It’s a little too agenda focused

Frenchfry

Sun, Jul 24 2022, 1:46 pm

Tova wrote:

It reminds me of the dynamic of Batya and Ruth (think I got those names right) in Green Fences (anyone remember it? By Riva Pomerantz, serialized in Mishpacha years ago).

I was thinking the same thing

amother

Heather

Sun, Jul 24 2022, 3:25 pm

I was Leah when I was very young. Then I had no friends for many years, served me well. Then I became Rikki out of desperation to have friends and just latched on to anyone. Now I'm finally learning the balance of having healthy friends and being a healthy friend to others. Some people are not born with this social awareness others seem to just have and need to learn it on their own skin.

amother

Sun, Jul 24 2022, 4:22 pm

amother [ Heather ] wrote:

Wow that's an interesting point. I always wonder whats going thru my friends head. I realized today that for some reason I keep calling her more than my other friends. I have this urge to tell her all my problems. Shes a great listener! I told her today a comment my mil had said. Her response went something like this " you put up with way too much, if id be you id long stop talkng to her"

Genius

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 1:54 pm

This week’s ending… my goodness. Do you think she’ll finally see through to Leah’s manipulation?
I did not expect it.

amother

Hibiscus

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 2:01 pm

Genius wrote:

This week’s ending… my goodness. Do you think she’ll finally see through to Leah’s manipulation?
I did not expect it.

Well it’s definitely gonna make her husband boiling mad.
Babysitting over a weekend, when he finally comes up….

tweety1

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 2:14 pm

Genius wrote:

This week’s ending… my goodness. Do you think she’ll finally see through to Leah’s manipulation?
I did not expect it.

No. I don't see it coming untill her husband tells her she has to choose between Leah and him.

tweety1

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 2:15 pm

Frenchfry wrote:

...and she can't host his parents....but l leah's kids...

(Edited for typo)

She has no choice. Leah didn't ask her. She just told her I'm leaving them. And she will nicely comply.

amother

Magenta

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 2:25 pm

amother [ Heather ] wrote:

I hope I'm not being Leah. Many times people tell me something they do and my response is, "wow your such a good wife, I'm not so good." I meant it that I don't know how they do it. I hope they didn't take it the wrong way.

ETA: you are definitely not a Leah for making the comment. Not at all.
Maybe now’s the time to rethink p the comment. Or think it to yourself. When I get such a comment I doubt myself and think it’s a back-handed compliment.
Telling people you don’t know how they do it rarely makes them feel good. Don’t know why but in many situations it’s just not helpful.

amother

Cherry

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 2:28 pm

amother [ Magenta ] wrote:

Maybe now’s the time to rethink p the comment. Or think it to yourself. When I get such a comment I doubt myself and think it’s a back-handed compliment.
Telling people you don’t know how they do it rarely makes them feel good. Don’t know why but in many situations it’s just not helpful.

I agree with you.
I do this sometimes, but Im not happy about it.

What else can I say thats a genuine compliment? Without saying 'youre so good'
'I dont know how you do it'
Etc

amother

Magenta

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 2:46 pm

amother [ Cherry ] wrote:

I agree with you.
I do this sometimes, but Im not happy about it.

What else can I say thats a genuine compliment? Without saying 'youre so good'
'I dont know how you do it'
Etc

”Good for you. I admire that.” ?
“Hashem should continue to give you strength”?

amother

Bluebell

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:22 pm

Frenchfry wrote:

...and she can't host his parents....but l leah's kids...

(Edited for typo)

Leah didn't ask.

#BestBubby

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:36 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

How terrible - to encourage Machlokes in a family! Surprised

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:38 pm

Im the op of this thread. This weeks endings literally made my heart go tight. Ive had requests from my Leah and was scared to tell dh.
I panicked for her what will she tell dh

amother

Tanzanite

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:50 pm

#BestBubby wrote:

OP, this friend is really a danger to your Sholom Bayis.

Marriage is challenging enough without a friend stirring up resentment against DH.

I really think you should drop this "friend".

You would not like it if DH had a friend who was causing DH to resent you.

BestBubby, why would you not think this advice appropriate if the friend was a parent?

Maybe one should drop a parent as well.

amother

Foxglove

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 5:12 pm

Can someone tell me: why is that serial being printed, anyway????????????????????
Promotes nothing positive.

amother

Hibiscus

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 5:13 pm

amother [ Foxglove ] wrote:

Can someone tell me: why is that serial being printed, anyway????????????????????
Promotes nothing positive.

Promotes awareness.
If nothing else, it’s good entertainment.

Does it make you uncomfortable?