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amother
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 Sun, Mar 26 2023, 9:27 am
I've been a playgroup Morah for over 15 years. It's hard. It's rough. I love it.
But I have to say, over the past 2 years or so, the level of nastiness, of complaints, of insane expectations have skyrocketed to the point that I'm constantly wondering if it's worth continuing.
A few thoughts about me. I know you all know Morahs that it doesn't apply to, but there are just as many that it does.
1) I don't just raise my rates to the highest possible. I go according to community norms, and cost of living. I'm sorry that you didn't get a raise. Truly. But the same way the grocery raised milk prices and hosiery stores raised tights prices. Do you complain to the grocery store
2) There are no subs to be had except for exorbitant prices. Practically that means I pay around $100 just to go to a siddur play. I rarely take off because I can't. I end up having no choice and work while I'm unwell.
3) I don't get paid maternity. Not a cent. I don't just pay my entire salary to the sub, I pay more. Practically that means that I can't decide to get pregnant until I have an extra 6k lying around. And I'm usually expected to be back at 5 weeks or so.
4) I don't get any "teacher" bonuses. No matza and wine, no clothing.
5) I pay a lot of taxes. That means a self-employed rate of 15%.
I'm not getting rich. I'm breaking even. But I'm not out to get you either. It would be nice if there was a level of courtesy and respect. Instead of the yelling and veiled threats that you don't want to pay me for April because I'm off 2 weeks.
There is such a shortage of Morahs. Let's not discourage even more from joining the field.
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Sun, Mar 26 2023, 11:15 am
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Thank you for everything you do! I could never do your job, not for any money in the world, and I am so grateful to my children's morahs!
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Sun, Mar 26 2023, 6:45 pm
I think this very much depends on the Morah.
When I send to a morah who doesn’t raise her prices exorbitantly (my very experienced, sought-after Morah charges $450), never takes off more than the school calendar that she distributed at the start of the year, and is extremely devoted, she will hear nothing but praise and receive extra tips.
When I hear stories of Morahs who arbitrarily add days off or take off without notice, raise prices after mothers already signed up, and have ridiculous expectations (ahem, no chametz 2 weeks before Pesach) you can bet they’ll get complaints.
All of us working mothers are bound to the rules of our workplace. We may make more money but we’re fully on the books, work office hours (no time off in the summer, before Pesach, etc.) and have many other cons. Yes, we each chose our jobs and they come with pros and cons, but we would lose our jobs if we behaved the way some of the Morahs did. You will receive feedback based on the way you treat your parents.
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amother
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Sun, Mar 26 2023, 7:12 pm
| 21young wrote: | I think this very much depends on the Morah.
When I send to a morah who doesn’t raise her prices exorbitantly (my very experienced, sought-after Morah charges $450), never takes off more than the school calendar that she distributed at the start of the year, and is extremely devoted, she will hear nothing but praise and receive extra tips.
When I hear stories of Morahs who arbitrarily add days off or take off without notice, raise prices after mothers already signed up, and have ridiculous expectations (ahem, no chametz 2 weeks before Pesach) you can bet they’ll get complaints.
All of us working mothers are bound to the rules of our workplace. We may make more money but we’re fully on the books, work office hours (no time off in the summer, before Pesach, etc.) and have many other cons. Yes, we each chose our jobs and they come with pros and cons, but we would lose our jobs if we behaved the way some of the Morahs did. You will receive feedback based on the way you treat your parents. |
If you've maxed out on all your vacation days and then your child is running 103 fever, or your child has a chumash play, what will you do? Take an unpaid day. Right?
If my child is running 103 fever, or a child has a chumash play and I've made hundreds of calls and can't find a sub, what should I do? Cancel playgroup that day. Right?
Except if I cancel, you'll yell at me, badmouth me to all the neighbors and threaten me.
You have 1 employer. I have 10. And I have to jump to every single one of their demands, whether it's physically possible for me to or not.
And then we wonder why there's such a shortage of playgroup Morahs and babysitters and what should you do because you NEED to go back to work already.
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