11 year old dd wants to shave down there

amother

OP ↓

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:43 pm

What do I tell her?
Is it too early to start?

amother

Glitter

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:46 pm

Why does she want to?
Also probably better idea to trim not shave.
Shaving is very annoying and can itch like crazy.

amother

Lime

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:50 pm

Get her a battery operated trimmer. I got the Panasonic one on Amazon for my daughter. It’s safe and the hair won’t itch when growing back.

I don’t think it’s fair to not allow it if it really bothers her. But shaving is a terrible idea due to itching and ingrown hairs.

I used to use Nair cream when I was growing up but those chemicals. Ouch. Don’t recommend that.

amother

Tiffanyblue ↓

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:54 pm

If the hair is getting uncomfortable for her, then at least let her trim with scissors to start. Shaving can be tricky in an area with a lot of folds..

amother

↑ OP ↓

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:55 pm

She said it’s bothering her. I’m worried she’s too young and she’ll hurt herself.

amother

Jean ↓

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:57 pm

amother OP wrote:

She said it’s bothering her. I’m worried she’s too young and she’ll hurt herself.

So tell her that

naomi2

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 8:58 pm

amother Tiffanyblue wrote:

If the hair is getting uncomfortable for her, then at least let her trim with scissors to start. Shaving can be tricky in an area with a lot of folds..

No way with a scissors!!!! She can cut herself easily

amother

Winterberry

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:00 pm

No to scissors, I cut myself one time down there.

amother

↑ Tiffanyblue

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:01 pm

naomi2 wrote:

No way with a scissors!!!! She can cut herself easily

I have much fewerr cuts with scissors than with any razor, electric or not!! Sorry for TMI. Not talking about cutting down to the skin all the way, but just the excess, until the hair isn't long enough to make underwear fit weird.

amother

Chocolate

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:01 pm

Shaving can itch and cause ingrown hairs
She should only wax or laser…
No comment on her being 11, but in my opinion it’s way too early

amother

DarkRed

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:04 pm

How much hair does she actually have? She probably needs to get used to it. I think it’s early to be busy with it

amother

↑ OP ↓

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:05 pm

amother DarkRed wrote:

How much hair does she actually have? She probably needs to get used to it. I think it’s going to be busy with it

How would I know that?

amother

↑ OP

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:07 pm

I remember shaving without discussing it with my mother beforehand. It itched like crazy and she drove me up a wall asking what’s wrong. I never told her.

When I asked her before I got married if I should shave she completely lost asking where I get these ideas from.

I’m happy dd felt comfortable approaching me about it.

amother

↑ Jean ↓

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:10 pm

amother OP wrote:

How would I know that?

Ask her

amother

↑ Jean

Tue, Dec 05 2023, 9:13 pm

It's great she's coming to you
Keep the communication open. Tell her your concerns, tell her it might be time to take care of it, but it might also be something that's just a part of growing up to get used to...
There were only pluses to communicating. You'll get a better understanding of the situation and build trust.
Hatzalacha!