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honey36




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:03 pm
TwinsMommy wrote:
I was a playgroup assistant and my husband came to visit me and meet the kids on a day off because he's great with kids. One of the moms started a rumor that he's a child molester. Few believe it, but enough do that he'll never again visit me while I'm subbing assisting. Or babysitting.

Why is it an assumption that if it's a boy or man, abuse or molestation is involved? Ladies. We all MARRIED men and are raising boys. Gender assumptions are stupid.

I gladly would have hired a male babysitter when my kids were young enough but everyone available was female.


Gender assumptions are not stupid. Males are much more likely to commit s-xual abuse than females. This is a statistical fact, not an opinion.

Sure, we all marry men, but when dealing with a vulnerable population (children) in a vulnerable situation (home alone with just the babysitter) we need to be extra careful.

My pediatrician always advocates for never letting boys babysit. I guess he dealt with too many bad stories R"L.
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Rappel




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:09 pm
There are probably more boys whom would be good at babysitting than there are families whom will hire them
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amother
Cappuccino


 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:13 pm
amother Mustard wrote:
Yichud is complicated for girl babysitters too. Wish there were boys available to babysit my sons 9 and 5. A teenage girl can't according to yichud


It's less complicated the other way around. Yichud starts for girls at 3 but for boys at 9, so there's a longer window for it to be acceptable to have a girl babysitting boys. Also if there is a sibling who is above a certain age (opinions vary, but 5 or 6 is pretty standard) then it's allowed. Ask your rav, you may be able to rely on that for babysitting for your boys. But yes, in your case, having a boy babysitter would be simpler.
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Ema of 5




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:40 pm
TwinsMommy wrote:
I was a playgroup assistant and my husband came to visit me and meet the kids on a day off because he's great with kids. One of the moms started a rumor that he's a child molester. Few believe it, but enough do that he'll never again visit me while I'm subbing assisting. Or babysitting.

Why is it an assumption that if it's a boy or man, abuse or molestation is involved? Ladies. We all MARRIED men and are raising boys. Gender assumptions are stupid.

I gladly would have hired a male babysitter when my kids were young enough but everyone available was female.

Downright crazy!!
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amother
Papaya


 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 1:43 pm
My friend's husband is a rebbi and pretty often she has dorm bochurim babysit, especially when the kids are sleeping. Obviously only boys she knows well.
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amother
Dill


 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 2:07 pm
Yes and no.

My boys are capable to babysit, but in yeshiva or school and not so available. All of then babysat at least once.
One watched a bunch of kids when the mother had a concussion, one watched cousins, and one the oldest was a 10 year old boy and the mother thought he'd be more comfortable with a male babysitter. None did babies in diapers, etc. More preschool-elementary school age.
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theoneandonly




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Mar 07 2024, 2:49 pm
amother Seagreen wrote:
What age?
And is this location based?
how does he get to and from the family he is babysitting at?

He is 13, has done mothers helper for toddler age (playing with the kids while Mom is home) for a few years already. He recently started babysitting at nights for sleeping kids when the parents aren't home. We live in a walkable area so he walks to/from where he is going.
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amother
Salmon


 

Post Sun, May 26 2024, 1:21 am
I need a boy babysitter due to yichud in flatbush any leads?
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amother
Red


 

Post Sun, May 26 2024, 1:25 am
Yes my son 11 babysits all the time. He's very responsible bh.
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Iymnok




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 26 2024, 1:31 am
I taught my brother to babysit. There were a couple all boys families that would be more comfortable with him. He survived. The mothers were super thankful.
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amother
NeonPink


 

Post Sun, May 26 2024, 1:45 am
amother Red wrote:
Yes my son 11 babysits all the time. He's very responsible bh.

11?! I wouldn’t let an 11 year old girl babysit either.
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Ruchel




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 26 2024, 12:54 pm
My husband did
Some prefer a boy to babysit boys
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tichellady




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 26 2024, 12:59 pm
My husband babysat. I hire male babysitters for my son, he has such a fun time with them.
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