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amother
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 11:43 am
A kallah teacher who does not charge a dime. Is it appropriate to give her a gift? If money is super super limited and it's a chessed wedding basically?
If yes, does the answer change if this is a second time around kallah and it's just 2 2-hour refresher sessions?
What is the right thing to do? If she is not given a gift, is that rude?
For context, the wedding is coming up shortly. Other kallahs she's taught did not give her anything (I asked them).
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amother
Dahlia
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 11:46 am
If other kallahs did not give I think it is understable not to give in this situation. She seems like a special woman.
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isrmss91
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 12:04 pm
Out of appreciation, maybe a box of chocolates/flowers and a card saying "Thank You".
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notshanarishona
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 12:05 pm
I would definitely give something, just as a basic gesture of appreciation even if money is tight.
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amother
Mistyrose
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 12:49 pm
I was in this situation many years ago, except I was a first time kallah, I bought some small gift- cannot remember what , and wrapped it up, wrote a nice thank you card and gave both together with my invitation.
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amother
Dandelion
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 2:44 pm
You can skip the gift but don't skip the card
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zaq
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 3:26 pm
At the very very least, she should get an effusive thank-you note thanking her for very specific things, not just a generic "thank you so much for all you have done for me" but add "thank you for your patience with my endless questions/ clear explanations of complicated ideas/willingness to work the class schedule around my availability/ reassurance in the face of my nervousness/handling a delicate topic with good humor/ thoughtful provision of tea and cookies after class" or whatever special things she did that impressed you. A small token gift of appreciation would not be INappropriate if the kallah can swing it. Just because other kallahs were not so etiquette-savvy doesn't mean you shouldn't be. It needn't be anything big or expensive.
ETA: Whoops major typo, a small token would not be INappropriate, rather, it would be very appropriate. Sorry about that.
Last edited by zaq on Wed, Mar 13 2024, 7:35 pm; edited 1 time in total
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amother
Babypink
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Wed, Mar 13 2024, 3:27 pm
Definitely give a gift, according to what you can afford.
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amother
Clear
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Thu, Mar 14 2024, 8:28 am
Are you sure she wouldn't take money even though she doesn't "charge"? Sometimes they don't feel comfortable charging because it's holy work but really would appreciate voluntary payment.
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amother
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Thu, Mar 14 2024, 8:31 am
amother Clear wrote: | Are you sure she wouldn't take money even though she doesn't "charge"? Sometimes they don't feel comfortable charging because it's holy work but really would appreciate voluntary payment. |
She does not take money.
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