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studying_torah
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:00 am
How much do you Lakewood mothers tip the bus drivers, mail carriers, etc?
If your child has the same driver for am and pm do you tip more?
Thanks!
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MimiMommy
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:29 am
Hold on-- you tip the mail carriers?? When is the stopping point then? I'm sure they appreciate it but I never heard of that. I don't understand this whole tipping thing. I don't know if you're allowed to give x-mas presents to non-Jews anyway.
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studying_torah
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:31 am
no I dont, but I thought ur supposed to......
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Chayalle
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:35 am
My neighborhood used to have a certain mailman who told me that he asked for a different route because people in my area didn't tip.
As for me, it depends on my budget that year! When I finish with expenses for the month, and then with the school chagiga fees, teachers, etc....I see how much I have left. I usually give the mailman $10.
My kids are at a bus stop with other kids, so sometimes we bring an envelope and everyone puts in what they want, and then we present it to the driver as a gift from all the kids at this stop. My kids have different drivers for a.m. and p.m. so it's four drivers. I'm thinking of wrapping a $5 around a chocolate bar and presenting that. Wish I could give more but I think that's what it's gonna be.
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b from nj
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:36 am
First of all, if you don't want to give "X-mas" presents, then why not give it during Chanukah so then it's a Chanukah present ?! & besides, that sounds like a cheap cop-out excuse, that we're not allowed to give Xmas presents...If you have a cleaning lady or a non-Jewish babysitter, I would HIGHLY recommend that you give them a holiday bonus.
Regarding the busdrivers, I usually give my DDs morning bus driver $10 now & in the beginning of the year (b/c she does me a favor & stops on our corner even though it's not our official spot) & usually at the end of the year too as a form of hakaras hatov. Don't underestimate the power of making a kiddush hashem.
I will add that b/c I don't see the afternoon busdrivers, I often won't tip them but when I have any connection with them, I like to try & tip them. ''
& regarding the mailman it also depends on whether I know who he is or not. For example, we used to have a very friendly mailman for years & I always tipped him $20 but his route got switched last year & I don't think we have a steady mailman anymore so I may not tip the mailman this year. A lot has to do with whether or not I have some kind of connection with them or not.
Last edited by b from nj on Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:39 am; edited 1 time in total
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amother
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:37 am
Growing up in Texas (I am a convert) my dad was a mail carrier. He was not allowed to accept money but it was always a nice treat when people left cookies, cakes etc in their mailboxes for us. In the holiday season my father brought home 2-3 things a day for a week or so. It was in NO way expected but a nice treat. I would only tip something like that never money by law government employees should not accept cash/ gift cards.
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MimiMommy
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:40 am
Chayalle wrote: | My neighborhood used to have a certain mailman who told me that he asked for a different route because people in my area didn't tip
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I hope you didn't start tipping him because of his lame threat. What chutzpah.
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MimiMommy
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:41 am
And b from nj. I understand about tipping helpers but I'm just saying I learned once that you shouldn't give tips specifically for x-mas. Maybe calling it "holiday bonus" is ok.
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Chayalle
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 10:42 am
MimiMommy wrote: | Chayalle wrote: | My neighborhood used to have a certain mailman who told me that he asked for a different route because people in my area didn't tip
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I hope you didn't start tipping him because of his lame threat. What chutzpah. |
I didn't, he changed his route. He was Jewish, BTW. And there were people who did tip him. And some who gave him Matza before Pesach, and fresh doughnuts on Chanuka, etc...
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studying_torah
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 11:09 am
thanks for the info!
we just moved, and my son's bus driver has been changed 3 times in the last 2 weeks, so I dont know any of the drivers- am or pm
Nor do I know the mail man/woman (nowadays u never know, it might be a woman!)
The thing is, there is no one else who waits w/ my kids, and I feel silly only giving $5, but honestly, I cant give much more. What should I do?
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Chayalle
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 11:11 am
studying_torah wrote: | thanks for the info!
we just moved, and my son's bus driver has been changed 3 times in the last 2 weeks, so I dont know any of the drivers- am or pm
Nor do I know the mail man/woman (nowadays u never know, it might be a woman!)
The thing is, there is no one else who waits w/ my kids, and I feel silly only giving $5, but honestly, I cant give much more. What should I do? |
Give it with a nice "Thank you" card. A homemade card is also good.
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amother
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 11:27 am
Not in Lakewood but elswhere in NJ - $5-10 dollars is normal for a bus driver and bus aide. If the bus is full and most give tips, that comes out to a lot.
Postal carriers are not supposed to accept cash. If you leave a gift in the mailbox, best to do it maybe not the few days before xmas. I have heard that people go around looking in the mailboxes for gifts!
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sky
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 2:33 pm
I was told my mailman could take cash if it wasn't a large amount. I give about $10 to the mailman and to the busdriver. I also write the busdriver a nice card - there isn't too much to write to the mailman - but he always gives me back a thank you card in the mailbox (he doesn't pay for a stamp )
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Cookies n Cream
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 2:53 pm
FYI, it is illegal for mailmen to accept cash gifts.
That said, mine rings my bell every year to come pick his up.
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MrsDash
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Thu, Dec 06 2012, 3:04 pm
We used to send, and receive a LOT of packages, and priority letters. I didn't give them 'cash' I usually just gave out gift cards to dunkin donuts.
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