Shomer negiah for the 'right' guy

banana123

Sun, Jun 21 2020, 5:57 am

amother [ Emerald ] wrote:

I had heard that a guy was told the opposite when he asked:
The girl who you touched in sin, you should touch only in purity. I.e. marry her ASAP.

There is a story that a man went to the Rebbe to ask him about a young man and woman who were from the community but had moved in together. "What do we do?"
The Rebbe said, "What do you mean what do you do? Organize a wedding and make sure they have everything they need." The story goes that the Rebbe said that such a situation as this you make a wedding even in the Nine Days.

zaq

Sun, Jun 21 2020, 4:17 pm

amother [ Sapphire ] wrote:

I heard a rabbi and also someone else say that anything that starts out in sin will not last or will be bad. Touching before marriage will end up with the marriage being bad or ending. I saw it a lot of times.

And we all know probably just as many couples who were shomer whose marriages were equally terrible, as well as people who were not shomer whose marriages were excellent. Well, maybe YOU don't know such people, but I do.