Are you fasting today?

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:39 pm

How’s it going?
Let’s pass time together!
How does this day make you feel?

amother

Oldlace

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:45 pm

I am.

Im in UK, have one hour left.
Been in bed for hourss.

Was only going to do half day orig, but then just felt not worth it to break it the closer it got to the end...

Tho am feeling quite weak and not v good

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:45 pm

This day is making me feel angry.
I’ve been conforming and people pleasing all my life and something snapped in me last year.
So today is a full day of doing what I’m being told what to do.
Only it isn’t.
Because I broke my fast after chatzos.
I fast easily but I just couldn’t take the pressure.

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:47 pm

I also don’t want to read all kinds of inspiration that are in my face on social media.
And my life is heavy enough on its own.
I can’t handle hearing everyone’s painful stories.

This day is so heavy. I just want it over with.

amother

Daphne

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:49 pm

Angry!! My dh doesn't help me out with the kids and yes even though we are fasting, he needs his sleep!!! Who cares about me?

amother

Papayawhip

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:51 pm

Yes, 45 minutes to go but I've been feeling terrible since the kids went to bed. I had a heter to break if I felt my milk supply was low but I could not justify that after the baby was asleep

amother

Antiquewhite

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:52 pm

All I feel is hungry. Which will probably soon be followed by headachy and nauseous

OP This is mitzvah Bain Adam lamakom. Who is pressuring you and why?

amother

Moonstone

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:53 pm

I broke my fast at chatzos but I feel unwell and weak, as if I'm fasting.

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:58 pm

amother [ Moonstone ] wrote:

I broke my fast at chatzos but I feel unwell and weak, as if I'm fasting.

You never skip breakfast? Or are you maybe a coffee person?

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 3:59 pm

amother [ Daphne ] wrote:

Angry!! My dh doesn't help me out with the kids and yes even though we are fasting, he needs his sleep!!! Who cares about me?

Wake him up or break your fast.

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:03 pm

amother [ Antiquewhite ] wrote:

All I feel is hungry. Which will probably soon be followed by headachy and nauseous

OP This is mitzvah Bain Adam lamakom. Who is pressuring you and why?

I don’t need someone telling me when I can and can’t eat.
I need to take back control of my life.

amother

Antiquewhite

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:03 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Wake him up or break your fast.

You are not a halachic authority to tell anyone to break their fast! You are angry and bitter but you can’t tell anyone to break Halacha!

imasinger

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:03 pm

OP, I'm impressed that even though today has been so icky for you personally, you're reaching out to ask others and offer chizuk.

May you find the strength to hold firm to your best inner self, and not get pushed into other's desires at the cost of that.

amother

Antiquewhite

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:04 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I don’t need someone telling me when I can and can’t eat.
I need to take back control of my life.

You do not sound like a Torah observant jew.

This post is reportable

amother

Broom

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:06 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I don’t need someone telling me when I can and can’t eat.
I need to take back control of my life.

What about the other 613 Mitzvos? How are you handling those?

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:06 pm

amother [ Antiquewhite ] wrote:

You are not a halachic authority to tell anyone to break their fast! You are angry and bitter but you can’t tell anyone to break Halacha!

😛
I can do whatever I want.

Just for the record, breaking a fast on a nidcha is not breaking Halacha

amother

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:07 pm

imasinger wrote:

Thank you.
What do you mean by others desires?

amother

Antiquewhite

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:08 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

😛
I can do whatever I want.

Just for the record, breaking a fast on a nidcha is not breaking Halacha

because there are leniencies in some situations doesn’t mean that it’s not a Halacha to fast today. And I’m pretty sure you’re not a Posek

teachkids

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:08 pm

All I can do is hug you and be a listening ear if you want to talk OP. I hope you can work through some of your bitterness. (Yes I am fasting)

amother

Moonstone

Sun, Aug 07 2022, 4:09 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

You never skip breakfast? Or are you maybe a coffee person?

I never skip breakfast. I eat first thing in the morning, or else I get dizzy. I don't drink coffee.