Who pays for waxing?

amother

Magnolia

Tue, Sep 05 2023, 9:36 pm

amother Aster wrote:

Waxing eyebrows and lip are a necessity for a teenage girl. My mom would pay for my electrolysis and waxing needs in high school.
When I graduated high school I paid for my own body laser.

They seem to be now. And I do pay for my daughters. I can afford to so I'm happy to. But I didn't grow up poor by any means. We were upper middle class. And never did my mother take me to get waxed. Nor did my mother ever once take me for a mani. She also did none of those things for herself. (And she always looked 100% put together and well groomed). What is expected today was once a luxury.

Ema of 5

Tue, Sep 05 2023, 9:41 pm

I pay for it because that’s what I want to do, not because society tells me I should. I also pay for most of her clothing. Honestly I don’t really care what other people do for their kids, this is what I do for mine.

coloredleaves

Tue, Sep 05 2023, 9:47 pm

I agree magnolia. My mom didn't either. And she didn't do it for herself. And she is a great mom!!! But I grew up out of town and my kids and I are in town(ish) now. And it is a necessity here. And I think if my mom raisers us here she am woudl have done it for us . Or we would have told her everyone is doing to and she would have asked and seen that and then done it too. None of my friend sour do town got manicures except for a family simcha or got waxing regularly. But they all do now. And so do their kids. It's a diff world than 25-30 years ago. And I would not want my kids to feel not up to par. In retrospect I wish I had done it years ago too! Once o started I realized I felt more polished!

amother

Hawthorn

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 12:59 am

I begged my mother for electrolysis and she didn’t let because it was too expensive. She did pay for waxings though. I don’t really get it cuz the waxings probably added up to about the same…also my parents were well-off. But so nervous about spoiling us that they sometimes took it a little too far IMO.

amother

DarkGray

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 1:07 am

im the mother who does not pay for it (for now) and she has plenty of money I would rather her spen dit on extras then feel like she needs to spend on other things of course I would rather she save but shes not into saving sooooo it works for now its not like she even needs the waxing and monthly not at all if my child needed it then I guess I would think dif

amother

Linen

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 1:23 am

I always paid for Waxing but when my girls decided to do laser, I split it with them. It was very expensive and I didn’t see that as a necessity, and lay out thousands of. Shekels was a lot, but I was happy to share it with them. But Waxing was a whole lot less so that was a lot easier. Plus Waxing was for the face and laser was for the body so I still pay for the waxing even if they did laser

amother

Brickred

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 6:55 am

This thread is making me so sad. But glad I live OOT, I guess. It just means that it will come here eventually, though.

No, waxing is not a necessity. You don't need it to look "well-groomed." You can look beautiful without it. I guess there are exceptions for people who have truly excessive facial hair. But in general, women are allowed to have hair on their bodies, eyebrows that aren't "perfect," and nails that grow naturally.

Why are we focusing more and more on externals these days?

Okay, carry on.

kenz

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 7:12 am

Today, laser is the extra. Waxing is part of life. I paid for all waxing but when my girls decided to do laser, they arranged for it and paid for it on their own. We didn’t even discuss it, they just did it.

bigsis144

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 7:20 am

20 years ago, my mother bought me bleaching kits and Nair hair removal cream. I remember my sisters and I hanging out in the bathroom to take care of our “mustaches”.

I wasn’t really even aware that waxing was a thing growing up. I got my eyebrows (only at the suggestion of my makeup artist, not because I thought of it myself) waxed for my wedding and never again.

amother

Watermelon

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 7:21 am

I don't go for waxings myself, so why would I pay it for my dd? I went once to get my eyebrows shaped and I tweeze on my own. Maybe if someone has a difficult case... but what's wrong with tweezing? I need to know before dd turns into a teen.

amother

Cognac

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 7:23 am

My parents paid. They also paid for electrolysis when I switched.
Laser Hair removal they paid for 2 areas. They said anything extra that I want to do comes from my pocket

Highstrung

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 7:27 am

Please don’t hug this post , but I have a sincere question. Was waxing always a thing ? Even in the nineties? I remember my classmates and I tweezed . Only very hairy girls got waxings , or so I thought .
When I was post highschool my mother started going for waxings and she took me along also paid for mine. At that time the esthetician told me not to tweeze because it thins the eyebrows.
I waxed maybe a few other times after I got married and now for convenience wax at home . I’m not hairy , never felt like I didn’t take care of my grooming . Was waxing really that common and I just didn’t know that , when I was a teen? (In the nineties) Eyebrow and lip waxing is a basic need? I never had a lip wax in my life and I look perfectly fine . 🤔

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amother

Hawthorn

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 8:09 am

Maybe it’s just me because I have very dark hair but I don’t understand how people used to just tweeze? Waxing is absolutely a necessity for me. If I don’t wax my upper lip I have a noticeable mustache-and it’s too hard to tweeze because the hairs are so short, but dark so you can see. I guess eyebrows are not as much a necessity, but when 100% of girls around you do it, if you don’t people notice. You don’t get the same effect with tweezing.

Bnei Berak 10

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 8:38 am

Highstrung wrote:

I am very light and yes I do lip and eyebrows. Maybe it's because I am in israel, the light and sun is so strong you definitely see it.
Waxing was always very popular here

amother

Cyan

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 8:42 am

amother Brickred wrote:

This!!! I don’t get waxings or manicures with any regularity at all. I’m finally getting laser now that I can afford it but I view it as a huge luxury. Is this the new normal for every frum BY girl walking around?? What has happened?

amother

Cyan

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 8:43 am

Highstrung wrote:

This thread shocks me.

Bnei Berak 10

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 8:48 am

amother Brickred wrote:

For *you* waxing is not a need.
I am very fair and if still do upper lip and eye brows and I certainly don't have excessive facial hair.
Waxing makes a huge difference.

amother

Tan

Wed, Sep 06 2023, 8:55 am

I was born in 1992 and waxing was 100% a thing

I have light skin and very dark hair so definitely it was needed for me but even for my classmates- they all did it