Moving to Woodmere or Cedarhurst with teenager

SplitPea

Tue, Jun 10 2014, 6:04 pm

preempservices wrote:

My Dears,
It is not that we have more teenagers at risk in the 5Towns, its that we embrace and accept them so they do not have to hide and sleep on benches on O--- Parkway. We have institutions to help them and those institutions advertise their services so the information is available!

We have fabulous yeshivas and day schools that work hard to educate all our children in a very challenging time. No different than Brooklyn, just more diverse.

OP - you will find more acceptance of your family's modes of dress in the 5Towns. You will find a lot of money spent, and a lot given to Tzedakah - 5Towns is known for its generosity. You will find an abundance of chesed.

As a perk. you will even find an abundance of trees and grass - it breeds a more healthful mindset!

Come visit this summer - its cooler by the shore!

This. If you wanna see our "at risk" kids come visit priority 1 yeshiva. The kids who if they lived in Brooklyn in a yeshivis family would have been tossed out with nowhere to go.

amother

Tue, Jun 10 2014, 7:52 pm

You def need to do real research and base your opinions off your own research not what some random person said to your husband. Also when asking about the different communities try not to prejudge or you will be doing yourself a disservice.
To answer another persons question it seems that when people both teens and adults move into a less judgmental less restrictive environment they let it all go and they completely lower their standards .

granolamom

Tue, Jun 10 2014, 10:53 pm

amother wrote:

Not lowering their standards but no longer faking it so they look good to others.
And many people move here so that they can be themselves, not the other way around. If you've got a kid who's faking it in bklyn because he's being forced or judged, trouble's a comin' sooner or later whether you move to the ft's or not.
And if you've got a kid who's not at risk then why all the worry?

Really, OP, I think you didn't mean to sound judgmental and all, but you kinda do. What people love about the FTs is that it's largely a live and let live kinda place. Pros and cons to everything. If you need societal pressures to keep you in line, maybe this isn't the place for you.
If you can't be ok living near people whose values vary greatly from your own, maybe this isn't the place for you.
And kids at risk are just kids, you know? Not scary monsters, just boys and girls in a lot of pain. They aren't looking to make your kid one of them