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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 9:50 am
saw50st8 wrote: | We usually serve guests first. Do all your husbands not help out? |
Mine helps with clearing at the end. He stays at the table and engages the kids and company, while I serve (with whoever gets up to help)
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 10:18 am
I have an open kitchen so I'm just putting platters on the counter and they get whisked away by DH or the other guests and brought to the table, family style and passed around.
I'm taking food out of the oven and putting it in bowls, platters, DH is bringing it to the table. When I get to my seat all the food has appeared on my plate!
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 10:43 am
pause wrote: | I always put serving dishes in front of DH. This way he can choose - according to who the guests are. He usually passes the dish on to the guests to serve themselves first.
But mostly, I plate individual servings so that I can ensure there's enough of everything for everyone. |
How long does that take you to do? I'm embarrassed at how long I take to get everything onto serving platters; I fear it would be time of seudat shlishit before I plated things!
If there's a dish that I know someone in particular loves, I'll start it with them. Otherwise, I start different things at different places around the table.
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 10:48 am
At my house, the only food that is specifically served to people rather than passed around is soup. We just go around the table in order. Other serving dishes are started at different places at the table to keep things running smoothly.
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 10:48 am
SixOfWands wrote: | How long does that take you to do? I'm embarrassed at how long I take to get everything onto serving platters; I fear it would be time of seudat shlishit before I plated things!
If there's a dish that I know someone in particular loves, I'll start it with them. Otherwise, I start different things at different places around the table. |
The only thing that gets plated individually is soup, and sometimes dessert. Everything else gets put out on serving platters/trays/dishes. I’d rather be able to put stuff away after the meal, rather ham have to throw out a full piece of chicken or a serving of side dishes becasue they were untouched on someone’s plate.
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 10:52 am
cm wrote: | At my house, the only food that is specifically served to people rather than passed around is soup. We just go around the table in order. Other serving dishes are started at different places at the table to keep things running smoothly. |
Exactly. All serving things get scattered around the table, and people take and pass.
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 4:51 pm
Male first people- if the male is 15, does he come before a woman (adult)? Before your MIL???
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 5:26 pm
Another mom wrote: | Male first people- if the male is 15, does he come before a woman (adult)? Before your MIL??? |
In my husband’s family, yes. The MIL is the one serving and she serves herself last, but the 15 year old male gets served before me, the 33 year old adult female.
I don’t care when I get the food, but the policy bugs me on an intellectual level.
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Mon, Jan 14 2019, 5:34 pm
Maya wrote: | In my husband’s family, yes. The MIL is the one serving and she serves herself last, but the 15 year old male gets served before me, the 33 year old adult femalel. |
This really bugs me!!! Why is this acceptable?!?!?!
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Tue, Jan 15 2019, 4:50 am
Chickpea wrote: | OK, so when we have Shabbos guests, I always serve the guests before I serve my husband, out of honor to the guests. They invariably take most of the meat out of the cholent, leaving my husband with minimal meat to eat. Who should be getting served first, guests or husband? |
I'm lost. Serve them less.
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Tue, Jan 15 2019, 8:47 am
I've never heard of this. Teens boys getting served by old women?? unless it's a grandma who spoils her grandson it is a NO
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Tue, Jan 15 2019, 4:27 pm
With soup, I often serve little kids first since the soup needs to cool down.
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Tue, Jan 15 2019, 6:10 pm
My BIL is a Kohen. I serve him first.
When my father comes over, I try to give him something and my husband something at the same time. With soup this can be hard, but it's doable.
With other guests, it depends. I usually but it between my husband and the guest (who usually sits on my husband's left side) and let them decide. If there's one person with a bunch of serving plates in front of him, I'll bring the next dish to another person to take and pass.
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