|
|
|
|
|
Forum
-> Relationships
-> Manners & Etiquette
amother
OP
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 11:07 am
Making a trip to me menacham avel mil. I have a beautiful pic of her and the kids id love to give her. Is it extremely inappropriate during shiva? Won’t be seeing her for a while after this ...
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
Chayalle
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 11:13 am
It could possibly be a Halachic issue, if it falls under the category of giving a gift, which I don't think you can do during Shiva.
Not sure though...but could be a question for your LOR.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
3
|
watergirl
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 11:31 am
Chayalle wrote: | It could possibly be a Halachic issue, if it falls under the category of giving a gift, which I don't think you can do during Shiva.
Not sure though...but could be a question for your LOR. |
Just a note on this. I know you and I both sat shiva for parents. There are pretty much no halachos regarding shiva, aveilus, etc. Just about everything we do is strong minhag. This is not a halachic issue per say, but I agree to ask your LOR.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
6
|
ra_mom
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 11:35 am
Leave it for her while you're there. Maybe in the living room or kitchen where she'll find it.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
3
|
Chayalle
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 12:20 pm
watergirl wrote: | Just a note on this. I know you and I both sat shiva for parents. There are pretty much no halachos regarding shiva, aveilus, etc. Just about everything we do is strong minhag. This is not a halachic issue per say, but I agree to ask your LOR. |
I would not want to have this discussion here and derail this thread, but I've heard this before.....but have heard this presented as Halacha. But because I was unsure of this, I wrote it as just a possibility and to check with LOR. And since OP was asking if it's appropriate.....perhaps to check how her MIL would feel receiving it.
I found the whole "halachos of aveilus" (or whatever you want to call it) as very confusing, and so many differences between every LOR that any of us asked (we are 7 sisters B"AH, and sometimes got that many variations) with some holding some of these strong minhagim as Halacha, and some not....
Perhaps OP could give the picture to her FIL.....
| |
|
Back to top |
0
1
|
Crookshanks
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 12:33 pm
Maybe you can hang it discreetly on the fridge? She'll see it after shivah, but you won't be giving it to her during the week.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
0
|
zaq
|
Thu, Jun 03 2021, 1:56 pm
If your father is still alive, he--or any other member of the household who is not also an avel--is allowed to accept gifts.
| |
|
Back to top |
0
4
|
|
Imamother may earn commission when you use our links to make a purchase.
© 2024 Imamother.com - All rights reserved
| |
|
|
|
|
|