Aliyah when it means leaving an elderly parent in the US

amother

Chocolate

Fri, Oct 29 2021, 2:39 am

Sorry to bang the Covid drum, but even people awash with cash were unable to travel freely in the past couple of years. I am NOT saying you shouldn't go, Kiwi13, far from it, but just adding this detail.

(On a side note - I am currently obsessed with your music!)

tree of life

Fri, Oct 29 2021, 5:01 am

Kiwi13 wrote:

Uuughhhh but you can't ever know. That's the real problem with it. Money will probably always be tight. We have to weigh our family's long-term needs against the fact that if we go, there's a chance he won't see us again if something comes up and we can't visit enough. We hardly ever see him now (maybe every few years for a couple days, my kids met him only once) but leaving the country is a very final kind of thing. It makes it much, much, much harder to ever have the chance to see each other.

Not being sharp or mean why do u only visit once every few years.
It won't make a difference if you leave to Israel what I would do as I made Aliya
You could make Aliya but book the first time that you could travel and tell the parnet we are making Aliya but coming to visit you in six months
Bh the parnet is near other family members and in a assisted living home do settled
I live in Israel if I can help you
Yes we left parnets and in-laws
11 years later my parents moved three years after we moved to Israel and ten years later my mil moved in with us so you never no

amother

Gray

Fri, Oct 29 2021, 11:00 am

This is the exact reason why my family is staying in ch"l for now. Oh how I would love to make aliyah!!! But it's not okay to leave your parents on their own. I come from a small family so I have a responsibility to be there for them. And it's a privilege to do so.

My parents are in their mid-70s and ka"h in good health, but I've seen the path some of my friends are currently walking with their aging parents. All it takes is ch"v one fall or one bout of pneumonia or something to start a decline that can ch"v come shockingly fast. A person can ch"v go from being totally independent and healthy and mentally 100%, to needing lots of help, very fast. Lo aleinu. Hashem should protect all of us and keep us safe and healthy ad 120.