How to train them not to just walk into my room

amother

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 4:34 pm

I stressed from very young that we don't just walk in to Mommy and Tatty's room. Especiall since my room is also my office and I could be doing anything o;n my computer. It's not their business what's on my screen. But they just feel free to walk in. They start talking to me and walk right in and I instinctively answer them, then rewind with a wait, you're not allowed to come in here without permission. But by then I already answered them. They don't learn.

amother

Chambray

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 4:57 pm

scruffy wrote:

Lock your door?

DITTO!

amother

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 4:58 pm

I can't. I need to be cognizant of what's going on in the house.

mha3484

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 4:59 pm

Yes we have a combo lock and you need to knock to come in. I let them in plenty but if the door is closed you knock. If its open you can walk in.

lamplighter

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:05 pm

My kids still do this . Argh. I make them go out and try again. Every single time!

amother

Dodgerblue

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:07 pm

lamplighter wrote:

My kids still do this . Argh. I make them go out and try again. Every single time!

Same!

amother

Amber

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:12 pm

Reinforce, reinforce, reinforce.

Have conversations. Educate and explain. Have conversations. Reinforce.

mha3484

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:13 pm

I think its confusing for some kids like the door is open but I cant come in feels like a mixed signal. A closed door is an obvious boundary, an open one is confusing. So it may take a while.

amother

Smokey

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:15 pm

A sign that they can see as they approach?

amother

Ultramarine

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:19 pm

Do what I did - I mistakenly forgot to lock my door while getting undressed (just my shirt was off). My 10 year old son walked right in on me without knocking. He was so mortified, he ran away and hid in his bedroom. He will NEVER be walking into my room without knocking again LOL

amother

DarkCyan

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:19 pm

Lock your door.
Open door means it's ok to walk in.

Also teach by example. Knock on their door when it's closed.

mommyhood

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:24 pm

amother OP wrote:

I can't. I need to be cognizant of what's going on in the house.

Does that mean your door is open? My kids are very good about knocking but I only expect that when the door is closed I just don’t think it’s realistic otherwise.

amother

Magenta

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:33 pm

amother Ultramarine wrote:

There are more appropriate ways to be mechanech kids.

Ema of 5

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:36 pm

amother Magenta wrote:

There are more appropriate ways to be mechanech kids.

I’m 100% sure she was being facetious….

Ema of 5

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:37 pm

OP, if you can’t close your door, then you could try a sign, as someone else said. “Don’t forget to knock and wait” or something like that.

amother

Amber

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:41 pm

Do people typically lock the door?
My door is only ever locked while DTD.

I can’t fathom locking my door or having a combination code on the bedroom. We have one to get into the house, but inside? That seems so cold and distant.
Educate and communicate.

kugelEater

Mon, Jan 15 2024, 5:42 pm

I've seen in people's houses where they have a line on the floor, and the children know they cannot pass that line. Can you put down a strip of red painter's tape or something?