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amother

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 6:35 am

Kids ages 1, 4, 7.
Woke up happy at 7 am. Played nicely. At 9 am they started fighting; 7 yr old got grumpy and 4 yr old was happy. Now 7 yr old is happy, 4 yo is screaming. This is a daily and even almost hourly occurance. In between there are fun times where they are chummy and have fun, but there's constant bickering and fighting and crying and teasing and grumping.
Is this normal?

HonesttoGod

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 6:54 am

Yup.

lucky14

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 6:55 am

Yes I'm sure that's very typical.

Last edited by lucky14 on Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:44 pm; edited 1 time in total

b.chadash

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:03 am

Normal

b.chadash

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:05 am

Maybe you can do an activity with them at 9?
Remember, during regular routine the two big ones would be in school at 9. Now its YT, so they are out of their usual routine.

silverlining3

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:10 am

Very normal yet super annoying and frustrating at times..

My kids, one hour they're best buddies, playing cheerfully, and the next hour they're bickering, often for the stupidest reason.

amother

Oak

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:16 am

My kids are now tweens/teens and nothing has changed. One minute they are all best friends, the next minute it's WWIII here and everyone is screaming and slamming doors so hard I think the whole house will fall down.

amother

Slateblue

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:18 am

Normal. And mine are teens or almost teens
Only quiet I get is the early morning when they're all still sleeping (they go to sleep later than me)

amother

Vermilion

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 7:42 am

It's somewhat normal. But if this is an hourly occurrence, they might be bored and need more structure or entertainment.

abaker

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 8:27 am

Normal! Looking at a similar scenario around here. Smile

amother

Ginger

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 8:35 am

I have three kids, 3, 5, and 7, and bickering is a common occurrence. But it sounds like your ratio of bickering to peaceful play is higher than ours.

I still think it's normal, since you have a wider spread in age, so your kids probably have less overlap in their interests and they're wider apart in development.

elisheva25

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 8:37 am

Normal

amother

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 8:52 am

Lol thanks everyone you lifted a huge load off of me
I ended up staying calm throughout, gave them love and attention to the best of my ability.
Took them outside and now we're on small trip so of course everyone is happy

amother

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 8:53 am

I was slightly exaggerating about it being every hour.

Crookshanks

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 9:28 am

You're doing fine. Completely normal, especially over YT.

FranticFrummie

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 8:52 pm

My sister and I are 3 years apart. We constantly fought like cats and dogs.

My mom's idea of successful parenting, is if none of us had drawn blood that day!

amother

Apricot

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 9:03 pm

amother [ Oak ] wrote:

Same, except there are hardly any minutes that they’re best friends. They seem to really hate each other and it eats me up alive! Every trip and every moment at home is full of fighting. It saps the last bit out of me. I really don’t know what to do anymore.

amother

Coffee

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 9:37 pm

I once partially read a book “siblings without rivalry” by Adele faber I think.
I thought it was great. I really should finish reading it.

trixx

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 10:03 pm

Did they eat breakfast btwn waking at 7 and fighting at 9? In general kids can get very hangry on pesach if their usual favorite foods are unavailable. Also klp products are basically sugar so not filling and then you have a sugar high/crash.

Crookshanks

Wed, Mar 31 2021, 10:28 pm

trixx wrote:

Same here. I am really missing you trix especially in the morning.

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